Right I'm completely new to anal play and sex, just never fancied it before. But now I'd like to give it a go but I don't know how to get my OH interested, I know he's done it with a previous gf and didn't like it much and I don't want to force it on him, but just don't know how to convince him to give it a go with me. Any tips or advice is gladly welcomed please!
Just to confirm. You want his penis in your arse?
LOL Sub you do have a way with words ;)
She didn't actually say who's arse...
Yes sum sub I want my OH's Penis in my Arse only he's not keen on the idea
What about some toys first? If he sees how much you like it, he might be persuaded! That's the route I'm going down at the moment!
Well I would start with, why didnt he like it with his previous gf? and try and resolve the issues he had with it.
Then is he a boob or a bum kinda guy? wearing some sexy knickers that show off your bum (http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=27313) and get him into doggy. If he's anything like me his mind will start to wonder about the idea of anal.
Then as with most things talk to him. maybe try it indirectly, one night both of you make a list of say 3 things you want to try, you might be suprised and its on his list. If not then let him pick something off his list to do and you pick anal off your list.
My OH didnt mess around she told me that "one day your gonna stick it in my arse" GREAT CANT WAIT.And the more i waited for that day, the more i looked forward to it the better it was.. when that day came.
He's a bum kinda guy and loves doggy, he said he didn't like it much because his previous gf wasn't relaxed and that's all he's said about it.
How about a couple of drinks to relax you both first then take it from there
How about just talking with him, and telling him you want to try it out?
northern boy wrote:
How about a couple of drinks to relax you both first then take it from there
yea a few drinks, lots of lube and try a toy in advance so you know what to expect. It sounds like maybe him and his previous gf hadnt really planned the anal sex?
aggie.w wrote:
He's a bum kinda guy and loves doggy, he said he didn't like it much because his previous gf wasn't relaxed and that's all he's said about it.
Hi Maggie.w. lots of good advice, try the indirect route tell him you enjoy the feeling of something in your arse. Get yourself a butt vibe and tell you him you want it in whilst he makes love to you. There are very few men that would not like this, the feel of a vibe coming through to the pussy is wonderful. Then after a few times maybe ask him if he would like to replace the vibe for his cock.
Communication is the key, some men are concerned that they are going to hurt there partners. So maybe some solo time with a good lube and some butt plugs to get you used to having something in your butt. So if the opportunity arises you are a little more in control and able accommodate him. Good luck and enjoy.
Thanks for the advise everyone :)
The Tristan Taormino book is a great guide to making sure it is a comfortable experience btw.
I'd say take your time, gentle persuasion usually works wonders.
I suspect using the line 'I'd like your penis in my arse' may well have the desired result, it'd work for me ;)
I would say maybe he is a little embarrassed and doesn't know how to take it. I'm sure he will come (no pun intended) round to it all in time and he will enjoy it.
Hi, well I've mentioned getting some toys to use to my OH and he's not overly excited but he did say he would think about giving it a go so I think we're making progress :)
Good on you and good luck lady.