Just that really... Sex has been good until the past few nights when he just could not stay hard. Is there anything I cn do to help? Anything we can get and try together?
Simple a COCK ring , better still a vibrating type would keep his erection and also stimulate you as well when making love.
Many rings are best fitted when he is placid ,so ask him to place one on himself before you are ready.
Cockrings are a great place to start, welcome by the way!
We occasionally use a vibrating one it drives her wild
We actually have two from LH. Will give them a try. Thanks all
I would recommend on the penis itself for erections and behind the balls and penis for more ejaculation delay
China brush will keep him Hard. Just wipe a little onto the penis about 1 hour before, then the challenge is to get him to cum! He may eventually cum , and though he may flag, his penis is likely to remain rigid. Enjoy :-)
Sometimes I just like the fore-play and play to last. Hope it works for you.
Don't forget that pelvic floor exercises are a good long-term thing for men as well as women. They help with ease of getting an erection, firmness, stamina, control over when you orgasm, and the strength of orgasms.
They can seem like a lot of work but they are worth it.
Well the first question i'd ask you is how old he is. As a 57 year old man I can tell you it definitely gets harder (sorry about the pun).
First consider medical issues: does he have a good firm woodie in the morning? If so it probably is not physical although still could be.
I've used cock rings- they can certainly help. But they've never kept me more than somewhat firm still making penetration marginal still.
Find out what his deepest fantasies are. If I have a partner who fucks herself with a dildo I get rock hard just thinking about it (not vibe but pure dildo)
Add a school girl uniform and I CAN'T keep it down
Try to find his most arrousing fantasy and maybe start there
Could try a Penis Pump to get him hard & a Cock Ring to keep him stiff, it will also make him bigger & thicker with regular use, hope this helps.
You say the last few nights? If its only such a short period then he might just be tired or stressed and it will pass.
Fozzbear wrote:
I would recommend on the penis itself for erections and behind the balls and penis for more ejaculation delay
Good tip, I'll get my OH to try this as he needs a bit og ejaculation delay!
My thoughts exactly upon reading the OP...Dali256 wrote:
You say the last few nights? If its only such a short period then he might just be tired or stressed and it will pass.
cockrings help..viagra....or maybe try sexy underwear n stuff
cant say ive struggled to get hard unless im wasted or not turned on by the girl
or tease him for a day or 2 n make him wait,,send dirty pics n stuff...good luck=)
Just give him a couple nights to relax and chill. Often if it happens once, the pressure to not do it again can get to them and they lose it. If you're using condoms, swap them out for some thins as sometimes that can be a problem. Otherwise, just seconding what the other guys here have said - cock rings and playing to his deepest fantasies.
Angus Ncle wrote:
China brush will keep him Hard. Just wipe a little onto the penis about 1 hour before, then the challenge is to get him to cum! He may eventually cum , and though he may flag, his penis is likely to remain rigid. Enjoy :-)
Sometimes I just like the fore-play and play to last. Hope it works for you.
China brush...?
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=821Eager-2-Please wrote:
Angus Ncle wrote:
China brush will keep him Hard. Just wipe a little onto the penis about 1 hour before, then the challenge is to get him to cum! He may eventually cum , and though he may flag, his penis is likely to remain rigid. Enjoy :-)
Sometimes I just like the fore-play and play to last. Hope it works for you.China brush...?
It's a delay solution, it's really good but I don't think it would be useful in this situation as it's maintaining the erection that is the issue and if I recall it made my partner numb.
I agree cock rings are a good place to start, masturbator sleeves might be an idea too to get things started.. you can use them on him or he could use one himself.
Just remind him that it's no pressure and give lots of reassurance. But it might be an idea to find out the cause of it of it carrys on.
Check for medical issues. My husband is having the same problem. Unfortunately, he's diabetic. He's only in his early 30's, I'm 30. It started about 6 weeks ago, and initially we thought we were both 'not bothered' by sex as we'd not been doing it regularly as we usually do, due to both working long and late hours and being absolutely knackered. Then the night we tried, as soon as he tried to penetrate me, he went soft. Tried again a few nights later and the same happened again.
I eventually gave in and gave him oral in the shower, which got him really hard. He said he had no trouble masturbating either. I then started blaming myself, before breaking down in tears one morning thinking that it was all my fault and he no longer wanted to have sex with me.
He assured me it wasn't and went to the GP without much persuasion. Blood tests have shown up something to do with electrolytes and he needs re-tested in two weeks again. He's going back this weekend for another appointment. Hopefully to get some answers or medication to help. I've supported him and am proud of him for getting help. Not only is it embarrassing for him to go to the doctors, he's told me he feels like a failure for not being able to have sex with me when he really wants to.
Saying that, this past weekend we've had some mindblowing sex, which resulted in me coming during intercourse which NEVER happens to me. The magic trick has been some 'stroker beads' which I had to buy online elsewhere as LH doesn't sell them (please sell them LH and I will be back for more). It's like 5 bands of pearl-like beads attached together, a bit like a tight bracelet. They're designed for masturbation for stroking up and down the penis. Hubby got them out on Saturday night, and popped them on whilst still soft. Minutes later he was solid and managed a good session of sex whilst still wearing the beads (great clitoral stimulation). Tried them again yesterday afternoon, putting beads on and giving him oral followed by another good session of sex. They were less than a fiver and made heaps of difference!! Worth a try - we did try cock rings but with little difference.