I'm quite kinky when I'm masturbating ( nipple clamps etc. ) but then I get embarassed with my hubby when having sex. How an I kink it up with the hubby?
demonstrate how horny you are when doing something kinky
ask him if he thinks something is kinky, and would like to try it
tell him "I really get off on you doing XXX to me"
ask him to tweak/nibble your nipples during the height of passion
When I tried to broach this ssubject with my OH, I write her a letter. Well an email actually, I told her I'd sent it and that it listed everything I love about her and all the things that turn me on and that I want to try.
Couple of days later we had a sit down chat and spoke about the content of that email, and that was the start of her journey to becoming a Mistress.
The success for us hinged on the fact that we're bboth understanding people and would do anything for each other.
She herself isn't terribly kinky and although she now enjoys playing Mistress and has really developed into the role, we also have 'regular' vanilla sex too. Relationships are about keeping both parties happy aren't they, after all?
I'd definitely reccomend writing your OH an email or note with a few things that you would like to try with him. Maybe try writing it when you are feeling very naughty and kinky after masterbating so you can write freely.
God luck xxx
Something I've found that has helped me recently is to watch some porn together that features something you have an interest in trying and then say to your partner "That looks good, I'd quite like to try that, what do you think ?"
Like the idea of sending an email though, I might try that.
You said you masturbate whilst wearing nipple clamps etc... why don't you give him a show? Of all the things you love to do... I'm sure he will be thrilled, and you can move on from there about what you'd like to do together?
Communication is key
Having said that hubby usually does things without telling me!
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All great advice communication is the key one way or another, writting to him if you can't do one to one but the idea from Scarlettmae is fantastic all men love to have show put on for them. Dress up how you want and masterbate for him , I assure you he will be thrilled good luck and let us know how you get on.
I'd just have the nipple clamps on and give him a glimpse of that, push it on from there.
Why not sext him I found this easier telling my boyfriend what I like, then show him via txt message and we they started gaining confidence to speak to each other direct what we liked
Going to give this a try. Need to do something - feels like I'm two different people lol
Maybe do some dirty talk? Ask him if he has any fantasies that he'd like to try and then you can find something that will get you both excited!
Ok. This worked. I dressed up last night in a basque and suspenders and text him to come upstairs. He went straight for my nipples. It was great. Now... How can I keep this up?
Glad that worked out for you! You have overcome the first big step which is getting it to happen, why not use this as an opportunity to sit down and talk about last night and what you both want in future?
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Ok. This worked. I dressed up last night in a basque and suspenders and text him to come upstairs. He went straight for my nipples. It was great. Now... How can I keep this up?
Just add something new tech time slowly slowly. Well done you.
I think having him watch you mastubate is a great idea
Just tell him how much you love nipple play. Maybe text him and tell him how much you enjoy it? My nipples are incredibly sensitive, and I love them being played with. For me I just guided his hand there, and when he was playing I made him squeeze harder and harder, and now he just knows exactly how I like things. He will want to please you, and he will take mental notes of what things you like and what things you don't like. Now every time we have sex my nipples always get a ton of attention, and I'm really really not complaing!!
For me, I don't like the masturbation idea. I can mutually masturbate with my husband, but by myself I just feel so embarrassed! It's just one thing I can't do, I've gained more and more confidence with being kinky and opening up my likes and we have an amazing sex life since finding LH, but him watching me masturbate just makes me want to cringe!
I'm just worried he's going to think I'm a bit weird lol
Assume a dominant position  Buy a latex outfit, and some kinky toys and surprise him!!