Hi, when my husband and I first met I could suck him to completion in about 10 minutes. We’ve been together 12 years, we’ve recently been through a bit of a dry spell but trying to get back into it. But now when I give him oral, although he says it feels good it doesn’t get him there and he stops me after a while. What can I do? Thanks
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Have you tried asking him what he likes/would like?
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Is he receptive to his prostate being stimulated?
Porn is always a great place to just get some ideas. Also, always try to do new things and tell him to lay back and tell you when something feels good.
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Wife would not entertain giving me a BJ which I fully respect but if she did I think it would need to be a visual experience, so lingerie, boobs etc being seen, touched and her being excited/climaxing. @Rebekah29
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There are a few chats with this topic but I guess the things that are at the top of my list are:
- Enthusiasm, when my partner kind of makes love to my penis in a way that she is enjoying it almost as much as me it’s a huge turn on. This also relies on her being in a position where I get a great view
- Don’t race. A BJ doesn’t need to make me cum to be enjoyable and teasing BJs really get me horny
- Combined with don’t race is a comfortable position. Make sure you are both comfy for a longer session
- Use your hands too or maybe add an open ended stoker (which is one of my favourites) Stoking the shaft while teasing the head with your mouth
- Don’t ignore his balls or even butt if he likes it. Combined teasing is so good
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We had the same issue my wife love to give bj to me and I love when she does. I was finding it hard to cum but then found the magic button the anus OMG she only has to rub and I am exploding all over. There is no need for full finger in just nice rubbing around. We also found sucking and licking the ball and she they goes further and licks between the ball and anus again a massive turn on. She is not one for anus licking but no need for that with other options. We have also done toys as well finger sleeves if you felling more adventurous.
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@Rebekah29
Keeping the spark alive can be difficult- but there are ways
I suggest when you got your mouth full tell him to talk dirty to you and get him to freely talk and discuss his deepest and naughtiest desires- I find this gets his mind wild and soon you will notice the swelling and desired outcome of a good blowjob
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Things like age, familiarity etc can play a part. The first bj my wife ever gave me, it seemed spontaneous and I was young and super-excited about just being with her …
Fast-forward 20 years, and the excitement of newness has been replaced by our great knowledge of one-another … but work/tiredness and other factors means it’s not as easy to make me come these days.
I find I need more flirting, teasing etc beforehand which helps build that excitement. Also, if wifey rushes and gets too full-on too early in a bj it doesn’t feel as electric.
Start slowly, little licks and kisses etc … don’t take him completely in your mouth too soon, except to tease. Be gentle, be light … until he’s basically begging for more.
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We can all only go from what personally hits the spot, but I guess that’s what you’re asking.
For me I like a slow start, the wife teases me a while, we kiss and I have a bit of a ply with her first. I like a bit of dress up so some nice lingerie or something like that.
I also enjoy a bit of 69 with her sitting astride my face. Sometimes she’ll lower herself so I can lick her too, other time she’ll just make me look at her undercarriage while she gets busy on me. I love reciprocating and find it such a tease when I can’t, sometimes she will ballgag me and every now and then rub herself on my face and mouth but I can’t sick my tongue out. That always sends me over the edge.
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I like it when my wife wears a g string and kneels in front of me to give me a blow job while i am siting down. This gives me a visual of my wife in her g string which gets me going. Sometimes she starts with a blow job, midway through gives me a tit wank and finishes me off with a blow job. Although she doeasnot swallow she lets me give her a pearl neclace all whilst still in her g string
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@Rebekah29 - the best advice I can give (as a man) is - don’t try and make him cum.
Try and make it feel amazing. Tease him. Do it slowly. Look him in the eye. Stop every now and then.
Think edging - rather than completing.
My wife has a lot of tricks - slow licking - just on the frenulum. Every now and then a rub on her cheek, her nipple.
She lies on the bed, kind of like a Roman eating grapes, so we are in kind of a L shape.
If she is wearing lingerie - and starts playing with herself at the same time - it’s more than I can handle!
My favourite is her giving a BJ and rubbing her clit at the same time, while I use a finger or two inside her.
She will tease me until I can’t avoid cumming in the end.
That works for me!
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Before preaching about what I think is a great bj and my preferences change with mood so that could be a long answers ….
Id ask your OH what he wants and likes … talk to him about it don’t second guess him it’s best for all bed room activities just have a chat as long as you both honest all will be good x
I find being vocal with my wife really works as she sucks.Telling her how good she is and that she must have sucked hundreds of men to get this good gets me really going as well as making her flow and really go to town.She sometimes groans with lust as i talk dirty to her and this feels and sounds great.
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Great advice!
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What @Brian_Lisa said. I hate to brag, but I’m almost worlf-gamous for my blowjobs (given or written about) and it’s because of the passion and enthusiasm that I have for given them. If you approach it like it’s a chore, it will put him off. I can be like a chick waiting to be fed sometimes, almost too literally 
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That is a great comment!
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We have been married 37 years and have a good sex life. My wife has given me thousands of BJs, and she’s great at it, but I can count on the fingers of one hand the number times being sucked has made me cum on its own.
So my advice is: don’t put pressure on each other by thinking there has to be a target or outcome for any specific sex act.
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I’d maybe say it isn’t you but perhaps him as our sex drives change and things what would have gotten us climaxed may not in future yet he might know of some other things what do so best you can do is ask him 
Similar to others. I can count on one or two fingers how many times a BJ has led to orgasm. It’s been a problem for some women so I always feel as if I am failing for not orgasming.
For me it’s great foreplay, I adore the idea of it and the visual look and hair, eyes and lips etc. I prefer the whole mutual experience as it takes the pressure off one person and less selfish.
other thing I would add is a blow job is a good opportunity for a bloody good hand job, with extras. Hand jobs work but feel “meh”. Blow Jobs don’t work but the winning combo is both with slightly more hand job and some sneaky licks, nibbles and sucks.
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