We have received the basics smooth anal prober free with an order placed the other week. We were wondering what would be the best way to make using it pleasurable for L. We know to use loads of lube but what else could we do? What's the best position to try first? Would using a bullet or vibe as well help her relax in to it more?
Hi Holly Love - I have this toy and it feels really nice - it is not to big either so is a great starting point. You could use this in conjunction with a vibe on her clit while she is lying on her side - I have found this feels really nice. The most important thing is to relax, use lots of lube and communicate.
Start really slowly and build up to going deeper - just do what feels comfortable for her. If you have issues with burning sensations you could always use an anal relaxing spray - I personally use this one and it is a wonderful product as you don't lose sensation. Good luck and have fun :) xx
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I'd second what Scorpius has said.
Take things slow, relax, and use lots & lots of lube.
If you feel any pain or discomfort, stop back up a bit, then try again once everyone is more relaxed.
Sometime when being penetrated analy, it sometimes helps to push back against the toy as if your going to the loo.
Most importantly try to enjoy !!!
I 100% agree pushing pack on the toy really helps.
Also starting of with a small toy then moving on to a larger one before taking your partners cock, I always warm up first with toys before taking my partner.
Agree with everything everyone has said, it's important to be really aroused and want it - then you will naturally relax as you are wanting it to happen. You can also start by using a finger and then progressing to a toy, plenty of lube.
its fantastic and well worth getting into
We have only tried full cock anal sex once, we have an anal probe and we have used that, I have used it while oh watched me on webcam. We both really enjoyed full anal but prefer normal sex and said it would be nice to try occasionally, I think this weekend we will try full cock again so tips above will help me too
I love this place so much advice from really friendly people. Is it possible for me to have an orgasm from anal alone if so how would we go about getting there?
L
Go slow lots of lube and you control the depth and speed and stop if it's not right for either of you.
The basic probe is great way to start
Holly Love wrote:
Is it possible for me to have an orgasm from anal alone if so how would we go about getting there?
L
In theory yes, because some people can orgasm from all sorts of stimulation, for example mental, nipple, toes, neck and/or belly button.
It all depends on how easy you normally climax. I suppose if your highly aroused both mentally (some people get very turned on because they feel it's a taboo) and physically then you might orgasm through anal alone.
Give it a go and let us know !!!!
Same as allready said take your time, plenty of lube and control the rate of insertion yourself.
Some people also recomend a quick douch to clean yourself before beginning and to make your bowels are empty. also some tissue by the bed as it can be a bit messy when you are removing whatever you have put up there.
Enjoy.
You'll already know this but use lots of anal lubricant, kind of stretch it out first with a finger and then add more and more fingers and at a comfortable pace, then use whatever toys you want, I find squatting is the best position for anal play as it 'opens it up more'. My boyfriend usually plays with my clit at the start to help ease the pain off. I think the more thats going on the less pain you'll feel as you're focusing on other things aswell. Hope this helps :) xx
i am going to try anal soon as well.. i am a bit nervous but my OH is older and has done it before many times.. I hav also purchased the anal douche from Lovehoney so that i do not worry about any nasty surprises during.. I am so looking forward to my experience!!
Try some of the anal lube, help you relax a bit. I've tried before and sometimes uncomfortable if your not completely relaxed.
But enjoy ;)
A couple of times my partner has sat on the sofa, slightly slid down so her vagina is level with the end of the cushion, I knelt in front of her and lifted her legs slightly and then entered her almost horizontally if felt great and smooth. Its fun trying at least. Lots of lube and a rock hard cock always helps.
Tried it on Sunday night after a warm up session with a vibe we used the doggy position and the smaller end. Loads of lube and it slipped right in. Im now a fan of anal and can't wait to try the bigger end. What a fantastic starter toy. What toy would people recommend as a next purchase?
L
I would recommend a glass toy, was really impressed how easy it goes in because of the smoothness of glass. But do not overdo the circumfrence as it has no give. requires a lot less lube as well. You could as well stay with your current toy for a while since with training you will learn to relax the mussles more to make next toy easier to insert.
think of it as a marathon and not a sprint.
I enjoy anal for the feel, tightness and general nautiness but my OH is not so keen as she does not enjoy it much. This has been a very useful thread, thanks.
Best advice I have take it nice and slow , lube lube lube , start off small and dont get eyes bigger thank you belly .
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I started off with http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=13085
Then got a butt plug so you are used to slipping something inside you - http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=16053 or you could buy a kit and work your way up - http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=3539
I then got a douche - http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=952 dead easy to use and simple and makes you clean esp when your using bigger toys as I worked my way up to an anal dildo to get to used to the fact that he will be inside me - http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=16726
Then I brought http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=17072 to get fill what it will be like,
Honestly try it slow if you enjoy it you enjoy it its not for everyone, dont put any pressure on yourself slow and lube it taken me about 6 months to work my way up, just taken it at my own pace.
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It's very well written and I recommend it. instead of going for 20 toys try this one first and then deside what you might or might not need.
Thank you everybody for your help we cant wait to try anal more think we might go for a vibe plug next then try and see if after using toys for a while if we can do full anal sex.
Going to try dp too when in abit more used to it.
L