I am 23. I recently started my first relationship (late but whatever).
The other day, I used a single finger to do the “come hither” motion inside of her vagina. I learned it from porn and was not expecting it to work. She apparently has only done external clitoral stimulation before, so when I hit her g-spot with this technique, it apparently gave her the best orgasm of her life. Being my first time doing this, I was shocked and super happy that I could make a woman feel this way.
But it was not a squirting orgasm. She did leave behind a lot of discharge and vaginal fluid, but no squirting.
Practice, lots of practice and although porn is fun there are many more detailed and helpful guides and experienced people on this forum that can help.
Talk to each other as you play, find where each others spots are, read and then the best part practice what you’ve learnt that day.
Squirting will come in time. You can’t get to the finish line if you are just about to leave the starting position.
A few thoughts, first of all, what my friend @JGood here neglects to mention is that not all women can squirt, and actually, it’s quite often overexaggerated in porn anyway. My husband has given me multiple intense orgasms but I’ve never squirted, it’s just one of those things. Stress, anxiety and dehydration can all reduce the chances of it happening.
In relation to the porn acting, there’s a lot of thought that the women in porn simply pee themselves on cue because it’s more theatrical than a real orgasm. Is that really something you want your new partner to do? Sometimes reality isn’t so impressive. but that doesn’t mean it’s less fun
@Tenshadesandme is quite right not every woman can squirt and there are many reasons why not. However seeing as you’ve only just started you adventures in the art of giving pleasure I thought it more prudent to get your grounding in cunnilingus of the female form under your belt before you attempt the master classes.
Out of the women that have graced me with their time and favour I would say only 1 in 6 has the ability to squirt but we talk and take great delight in trying to entice that outcome if wanted.
I will try to give more relevant information as your adventure progresses.
Stimulation of the G-Spot can produce arousal that leads to squirting. Squirting is the rapid flow of the female ejaculate out of the urethra. This is not urination, but it may give the woman the sensation that she is going to urinate before it happens. In squirting, a usually clear fluid is fed into the urethra. It is not urine. When the G-Spot is aroused, the fluid can be released into the urethra. The fluid can come out in a stream from the urethra, hence the name squirting. The G-Spot needs firm pressure. In order to find the G-Spot, initial arousal is necessary. The G-Spot is located 2 to 3 inches up the front (anterior) vaginal wall between the vaginal opening and the urethra. It can be manually located by inserting 2 curled fingers into the vagina and using a “come here” motion. Once the spot is located, deliberate, direct pressure is used, building the intensity. Many women find that pressing just above the pubic bone while stimulating the G-Spot internally is needed. Since pressure is being applied, it produces a feeling that she is about the urinate. SELF writer Erica Sloan also gives a guide to squirting in her online SELF article, “So You Want to Learn How to Squirt During Sex”.
@Fiddle … I do not “squirt” as you see on porn, but more of an absolute flood from my puss, which I call “gushing”… the amount varies from what seems to be little more than additional lubrication to absolute torrents that soaks everything round about, and anywhere in between …it is usually preceded by a feeling that I am about to pee myself, but it is definitely not pee …
I’ve only ever made my wife squirt a couple of times in the 30+ years we’ve been together
But im under the understanding that not all woman can squirt
The couple of time that my wife has I’ve also so called finger f**ked her while she has rubbed her clit, which she needs to stimulate to orgasm
But im assuming that if you practice will help if she can squirt, if not you will both have fun
The clit is more that just the little nub that you see under the clitoral hood. It is much larger than that, and the G-Spot is on the back of the center “body” of the clit. It is necessary to arouse her before a G-Spot orgasm can happen, and stimulating the nub can arouse her to orgasm.
The technique I used was to stimulate that interior portion and the external one simultaneously. She gave quite an…audible feedback that I had succeeded.
I honestly feel super successful in pleasuring her. But to see that stream flow from her would be the ultimate reassurance that she feels the most pleasire she can. Because that’s all I want: maximum pleasure for her.
Maximum pleasure doesn’t always mean she has to squirt.
It can mean anything from not walking straight for a day, to comatose on the bed. Passing out mid orgasm. Snuggling up to you for an hour or two of sex induced sleep.
The main point is that what you thing is the maximum and best in not necessarily what your partner likes wants or considers the best, keep that open communication going and you will be ahead of the game and top of the class.
Always have an inquisitive mind. When looking for empirical data.
How many sources, what’s the data sets you are looking at, reference points, peer review.
The same is said with your statement. What made you think that’s the gold star of the Sex Olympics.
When you’ve heard it here, only so many women squirt frequently and a few squirt once or twice in their lives and some have never. It doesn’t stop you trying and learning that’s the good stuff right there but don’t compare contrast or think that what you do together pales in comparison to others. As long as you rock each others worlds you are her stud and that’s all that counts. Be there for each other and you get your gold medal each day.
In comparison, is you coming the most important part of the sexual act? Do you get greater or equal pleasure from different acts?
Although a G-Spot orgasm has been associated with squirting, it seems that squirting does not necessarily happen at the time of the G-Spot orgasm. According to Emily Nagoski from an article on the web:
“Orgasms generated by G-spot stimulation tend to feel different from clitoral orgasms. In general, women say that they don’t experience the same rhythmic pulses that accompany the standard clitoral orgasm. Orgasm from G-spot stimulation is a bigger, whole-body kind of experience, where the sensation fills you up until you don’t believe you could possibly feel more, and then you do and it fills up your entire body again. You might have a harder time identifying the beginning and end of a G-spot orgasm because often there is a long, slow approach, and a long, slow orgasm, with a long, slow denouement.”
I’ve tried. Never happened. OH said she has never come close even when she has her orgasm. I’ve made her cum GOOD and seen her shake from them a couple times. But no squirt. We’re hoping to get ideas from this forum.
Merry Christmas.
there are TONS of squirting posts on here, have a look around, do some reading, etc.