Hi everyone i am after some advice on how to make sex and foreplay amazing for a guy.
After speaking to the guy im currently seeing he said the sex is great but i want it to be amazing. but i'm not sure what else to do to push that great over the edge to amazing.
any advice or tips would be fab
jess x
Hi Jess,
We'd need to know a bit more information to give advice really, as one persons amazing can be someone elses awful.
What does he like? Have you asked him what can be done to make it amazing?
hi sorry im kinda new to all this so wasnt sure how much detail into the post :/
i have asked and he said more voical and more aggresive like biting sunching not so much straching.
But im not such a voical person tend to be quiet ntot to quiet he knows if im enjoying my self. I just tend to be quiet as i have to be if im at home. So kinda difficut to break that habit. but was wondering is there anything else i could surprise him with etc
thanks for the help so fair i will try to do better posts
jess
Hi jessrose91 If he says it's great and he's happy but would like a little more 'rough love' then that's probably what he wants. It looks as if you are not always alone in the house so that could be dificult, but you could have those 'Special' sessions when you are alone together.
We all have to make a compromise at times.
Enjoy. x
If you're unused to being loud you could try using ear plugs when you have sex, it might seem weird at first but it adds some to the kink factor and you'll most probably be louder when you can't hear yourself. Also some backround noise can help, porn if you like that or just some loud music. I can feels embarassed to be too loud but the brain forgets about that when it can't tell how noisy you are.
If you want to be more aggressive you could start with him being rougher with you (without being too rough obviously, you should both be comfortable, experiment to find out what you like and don't like), I find that some adrenaline can be needed to push me to want to get more aggressive and if your partner is already rough with you it's easier to let go of those inhibitations.
Have fun and play safe!
You could add a few " spanky" toys to turn up the volume a bit... Add a few things in that allow you to be more vocal in roleplay might help.
But I know where you are coming from on the " keeping quiet" front... I was always a quiet one.... But I suspect that is not going to continue if my 1 st encounter after divorcing is anything to go by😉😄
I used to be the same, feeling self conscious and a bit silly making noise. My ex made up for it by being really loud! You said your partner says the sex is great, but how do you feel about it? Are you getting what you want out of it, letting go, enjoying yourself fully? The big thing for me is not overthinking things and going with what feels good. If I'm too focused on what my man thinks I can't relax and enjoy myself, which in turn my man will pick up on and get distracted.
Start by telling him what feels good, directing him a little and letting him know when he's hitting the spot. Even in the most submissive posture you have a choice of allowing things to happen or matching his intensity. As you grow in confidence and learn to relax the vocals will become natural to you and not feel so forced. Fake loud moans belong in cheap porn movies, but there's nothing like a genuine gasp or squeal of pleasure.
Wow, essay! Hope this helps you x
thanks for all the adivce it is all extremly helpful :D just to say me and my guy are very open and talk about what we both like and dislike. He is alway wanting to please me i just want to make sure i can please him the best I can. May have to invest in some role play stuff sounds quite fun :D
I used to feel really self conscious about what noises I was mean to make and what you're meant to say, now I'm the loudest person in the world. Biting and hair pulling is good, just let all your tension out on him. If you're on top just holding his hands above his head makes a massive difference
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Hi jessrose, not sure if you might be into this but for a guy to receive it is just the next level of intimacy and it is exquisite.
If you want more main stream I think that to be made to whatch and not be allowed to touch whilst your woman masterbates for you is amazing followed by a long slow orgasm delaying BJ is amazing too. Try a little gentle ball pulling whilst giving the BJ.
Welcome to the forums
Gentle giant wrote:
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/366618-prostate-milking/page-3/
Hi jessrose, not sure if you might be into this but for a guy to receive it is just the next level of intimacy and it is exquisite.
If you want more main stream I think that to be made to whatch and not be allowed to touch whilst your woman masterbates for you is amazing followed by a long slow orgasm delaying BJ is amazing too. Try a little gentle ball pulling whilst giving the BJ.
Welcome to the forums
thanks for that seem really interesting, but im a little unsure about that yet as we are still very new sexual partners but we are both very keen to experiment and try ne things but im not sure if he is willing to have anything put up there yet when i ask what you want to try he will say anything so maybe i need to be a bit more forward with asking that :) but thank you ! x
jessrose91 wrote:
Gentle giant wrote:
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/366618-prostate-milking/page-3/
Hi jessrose, not sure if you might be into this but for a guy to receive it is just the next level of intimacy and it is exquisite.
If you want more main stream I think that to be made to whatch and not be allowed to touch whilst your woman masterbates for you is amazing followed by a long slow orgasm delaying BJ is amazing too. Try a little gentle ball pulling whilst giving the BJ.
Welcome to the forums
thanks for that seem really interesting, but im a little unsure about that yet as we are still very new sexual partners but we are both very keen to experiment and try ne things but im not sure if he is willing to have anything put up there yet when i ask what you want to try he will say anything so maybe i need to be a bit more forward with asking that :) but thank you ! x
Your welcome, I would say because he's really into try some teasing and orgasm delay methods get him to the point and tell him he's not to come until you say he can and you really want it.
A game and a bit of roll play my wife and used to love was good old nurse and patient. She was going to have to take a semen sample and I didnt want to give one. I was only allowed to lie on the bed still and try to use my mind to stop her taking it. She had to do it manually but could use any other means she wanted. Lots of lube and plenty of encouragement, I never got past 10 mins
Gentle giant wrote:
jessrose91 wrote:
Gentle giant wrote:
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/366618-prostate-milking/page-3/
Hi jessrose, not sure if you might be into this but for a guy to receive it is just the next level of intimacy and it is exquisite.
If you want more main stream I think that to be made to whatch and not be allowed to touch whilst your woman masterbates for you is amazing followed by a long slow orgasm delaying BJ is amazing too. Try a little gentle ball pulling whilst giving the BJ.
Welcome to the forums
thanks for that seem really interesting, but im a little unsure about that yet as we are still very new sexual partners but we are both very keen to experiment and try ne things but im not sure if he is willing to have anything put up there yet when i ask what you want to try he will say anything so maybe i need to be a bit more forward with asking that :) but thank you ! x
Your welcome, I would say because he's really into try some teasing and orgasm delay methods get him to the point and tell him he's not to come until you say he can and you really want it.
A game and a bit of roll play my wife and used to love was good old nurse and patient. She was going to have to take a semen sample and I didnt want to give one. I was only allowed to lie on the bed still and try to use my mind to stop her taking it. She had to do it manually but could use any other means she wanted. Lots of lube and plenty of encouragement, I never got past 10 mins
oh i like the first idea ! may try that and he is not one to finish quickly to say the least he seem to go on forever which isnt a bad thing at all hehe :-D
Another way to build it all up, for days before you see him is lots of sexting. Men like explicit. Nothing more erotic than getting a txt from your OH in the middle of a hard day at work saying I am thinking of you and what we're going to do and I am soaking my pants. You get the idea I am sure. Feed his mind. Remember its you that turns him on so don't be shy. Good luck.
A quick way to find out what things are compatible between the two of you is to take the survey at http://www.mojoupgrade.com/
It only tells you things that you're both interested in.
For me the difference between great sex and amazing sex is how much my OH enjoys it and tells me while it's happening.