Well I'll be the odd one out here then...I hate giving blowjobs, thats a bit harsh, I don't mind it, but when the pre cum starts to come out I stop, I gag alot and I cannot stomach it!
(Waiting for the abuse and shock to kick in, feel free to shout at me for letting the side down!!!)
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psst! I don't enjoy giving oral sex to men either! (that doesn't stop me enjoying receiving it... ;) )
I couldn't tell you the last time I recieved oral from hubby, I love giving it to a woman though
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Me too. :)
There - edging, learnt something new - had no idea it had a name.
Mel you never need to apologize - we're all different. With me see, it's things up my bum - not sure about that at all. Mind you OH (sorry Lubyanka but it's quick!) loves it. I've never done oral with a woman or had one do it to me but I reckon I'd love it. I'd just love to try all the things I love done to me - sometimes men are just to eager to dive right on in and it's hard to hold them back. Well perhaps that's just mine!
I thought anal hurt so I've banned that, I do give him oral as he really likes it but it repulses me, makes me queezy just thinking about it
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I love going down on the OH although getting her to reciprocate is a bit of a struggle, and even when she does she never gives me the chance to cum. Maybe some of you lot should get her told!!! I think she's rather selfish tbh!
Is it really important to you to orgasm during oral, Geordie_Paul? If she struggles to give you oral, and does it anyhow, it seems reasonable to me that you could meet her halfway and agree to orgasm in another way outside her mouth. She might feel happier about giving you oral more often if you could do that.
Or is there something I'm missing?
No I don't struggle at all, I love it!! It's just she seems reluctant, she used to give them early on in the relationship a lot but that was probably before she felt she could tell me what she liked and didn't like. The last time I came through oral was about a 9 months ago because that was the last time she would allow me to and even then I was only allowed to on her breasts. This was fine with me as I just enjoy the feeling for oral tbh I don't mind where I ejaculate and she knows that.
I know for a fact it would be a totally different matter if I refused to give her oral. Although I totally enjoy it so However I just find it a bit odd as I'm always willing to do things for her that I often don't enjoy.
Geordie_Paul wrote:
[...] she seems reluctant, she used to give them early on in the relationship a lot but that was probably before she felt she could tell me what she liked and didn't like. The last time I came through oral was about a 9 months ago because that was the last time she would allow me to and even then I was only allowed to on her breasts. [...] I don't mind where I ejaculate and she knows that.
[...] However I just find it a bit odd as I'm always willing to do things for her that I often don't enjoy.
It sounds to me like she has a particular difficulty with oral. Have you discussed it with her? I know that one of my difficulties with it is that I have a hard time coping with feeling suffocated, which can often happen during fellatio.
I think that sometimes, the more a person resists doing a particular activity, the more that indicates to me that something special is up with it. So instead of struggling with her trying to get her to do it, perhaps trying to find out what in particular bothers her about it might be useful. When you know that, then it's possible to try to find ways round the problems.
From your description, it sounds to me like this is more of an issue for her than simply not enjoying it. I think talking about it might help a lot.
Good luck with it! :)
Have done plenty of times, and she did used to enjoy it as she used to tell me she used to love making me come as it made her feel good and like she could please me and would also show off her deep-throat skills as she has no gag reflexes.
I really do think it's just become a selfish matter as if she doesn't think she HAS to do it anymore. Which she doesn't HAVE to do anything but it's nice for things to be reciprocated and I don't know why that has changed. Our sex life hasn't dried up at all we still fuck a lot and play with toys and I go down on her a lot there's just that ONE thing missing nowadays. Tried talking about it a few times and she just kinda goes in a huff in the way only women can
It's not totally needed but it's just odd how she used to enjoy giving me oral but now does not yet still expects it in return Meh we'll see, not gonna cause an arguement over it!
Cheers for advice though Lubyanka!
*Sorry for double post.
Sometimes it's hard for a person to identify precisely what bothers them about a specific activity. I'm still betting there is a significant reason behind this, because otherwise, why not just do it? And the fact that she just brushes it off without going into it does indicate to me that there's something going on which may be difficult for her to address.
If it's important to you, you might want to tell her this, and ask her to have a think about what it is about fellatio which puts her off. I think this is worth doing, because even if it isn't the fellatio, then whatever it is, is worth knowing.
Ok, I'm shutting up now. :)
Haha fair enough, cheers for the advice Lubyanka.
I will but tbh it's not drastic, still have an amazing sex life without it so why spoil something because one little thing is missing :)
bit late on this post, but would agree that variation is the key to a good blow job, as is being kept on the edge. GF likes to take me all the way down, but also enjoys teasing me by just palying with the tip. A vibe on your balls also helps!!
well its good to hear its not just me who likes giving the old bjs lol
and mel i agree with what you said earlier also
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Naughty Devil wrote:
bit late on this post, but would agree that variation is the key to a good blow job, as is being kept on the edge. GF likes to take me all the way down, but also enjoys teasing me by just palying with the tip. A vibe on your balls also helps!!
I love doing this... then when he gets impatient he just takes matters into hos own hands, yummy :)
bigal wrote:
wish my oh was into cock sucking
Lol same here mate!...But only mine obviously lol.
Awh I'm missing jawache!
.... I miss giving jawache