I am addicted to an extremely attractive guy who has casual hook-ups

The closest that I came to having some private moment with him was two weeks ago, when he and I sat beside each other and we were left alone for a brief moment, and we started making out, and I was hoping the whole time that the other girls would just leave.
Then they came back after probably 2-3 minutes or so (way too quick >_<), and then his attention was divided between us again.

He probably just saw me as an easy makeout moment though, and not much more than that.

@telpelauretl I have just one word ‘boundaries’ they are yours.

If you had no feelings for him then fine, be a part of his personal porn scene. But I think you are worth way more.

I am not sure quite what I felt.
I know that I find him extremely hot, and that I wanted as much of that physical private time with him as possible, and this is probably why I got into some of those situations.
I did feel humiliated when I was just one of the girls who stood lined up for him like that, but I also had very powerful reactions to when he penetrated me and held me - it was usually a big gasp followed by a bunch of giggling and moaning, so basically like the other girls.
But I always felt like someone that he just viewed as one totally random girl among his admirers, and this cannot be very good for me in the long run.

My advice would be walk away, in fact run away. It’s pretty clear that he has zero respect towards you or the other girls, all he wants to do is get his leg over. I’m sorry but why would you want to be with someone like that, and who can treat you like that. Someone who just uses others like that, and moves on to shag the next in line. You’re worth so much more than that.

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It wasn’t really something that bothered me at first, but I eventually started to feel uncomfortable with standing in line with other girls while he was behind and had his way with everyone.

I realise that I should stay away from him, and I will try to do that from now on.

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@telpelauretl as you get older… Im 46 you start to trust your gut… dont be forever thought of as one of his groupies x

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Ah, the flag isn’t just red. It’s on fire. I’m sorry, but for your emotional well-being it’s best to run away from this situation based on what you’ve said.
Those lovely feelings you get when he’s “with” you will come again, but just choose wisely who you share that connection with. You are worth more than feeling this way, and he is not the only attractive person out there. Know your worth and move on. :two_hearts:

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Yeah, I will do that.
I was starting to feel uncomfortable by those kinds of sex dates with him, and I feel that it will be best to go away from it. :sweat_smile:

I am also thinking that even if I managed to “snag” him, I would just constantly worry that some other girl will seduce him.
I am guessing that he is probably the type of guy who gets visits from girls at our school who knock on his front door and suggest dates, or something like that.

I also feel that it isn’t really that romantic that I am one of all those girls who he penetrates and has fun with for a little while like that, and then switches to another girl.
But I guess that he loves that whole thing from start to finish, lol.

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Hmm I’d defo talk to him to express your feelings but inevitably if he’s the sort of guy what he comes across like then sooner or later your gonna end up hurt by it and in ways better to take the control yourself to make the decision to move on from him than him ditching you for the next girl falling at his feet :confused:

Just remember you’ll always be worth so much more than a hookup fling and may not seem like it but there is other better guys out there waiting to show you devotion and love :relieved:

If you want my honest opinion, get away from him and stay away. If you’re enjoying the group sex that’s fine, I don’t have a problem with that but, if you have feelings for him, it doesn’t sound like he’s good boyfriend material. It sounds like he’s treating you all like objects for his pleasure and isn’t yet mature enough for a meaningful relationship. If he did agree to a monogamous relationship, would you really be able to trust him?

You need to wait for someone more deserving of you. Someone who can give you the relationship that you want and someone who actually cares about you :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

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Yeah, well I do believe that it is mainly the physical attraction for me;
I think that my frustration over having to “wait” is simply because it feels uncomfortable when he stops.
This is why I have considered convincing him to meet up with only me:
because this would let me have fun with him without any distractions.
But I guess I should probably stay away

And to be honest, I don’t think that he would even notice if I stopped coming there;
he seems to view his admirers as random hot girls that want to be fucked by him, more or less, and I guess that this is because that is how he seems to spend time with girls.

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(This whole thread seems to be made up…)

@telpelauretl

Hi, you’re only 18 and already feeling humiliated sexually. You seem besotted with this guy but if there was even a 1% chance he felt the same way about you, then he wouldn’t be doing what he’s doing.
Pull up your big girl knickers until they’re over your shoulders and tell yourself you’re better than that and he doesn’t deserve you. When/if you opt out there will be someone new to take your place. You can’t help who you get feelings for but he honestly ain’t the one :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

Yep, feels like we are being trolled big time…

I kinda agree.

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Reading it, I had the same opinion!

to be honest It is starting to sound like a bit of a fantasy rather than reality.

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yup agree

He must be really good looking and have a big cock to get girls to line up like that.

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In no way go near this guy… give youself the respect you deserve.
He may be a good looking guy, but that doesn’t make him a good guy.!!
Focus on friendships that may grow into more intimate relationships.
I am sure you are sensible, but indulging in any contact with this guy could harm your sexual health, so steer well clear.
Would you really want to be involved with someone who sounds so shallow.
There are plenty of solid good guys about that will care and respect you.

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