I can only orgasm with toys. my partner managed to do it manually once, but it just takes so long, plus with a vibrator the orgasm is more powerful. I only started a few years ago, since I'm only 22 and i could never really do much with fingers, so i decided to buy a toy.
So really toys are all Ive ever known!
Is there anyone else here who is similiar?
It's quite normal but the more you use toys the harder it is with Manual stimuation, men have the sane problem with mastubation, death grip, becomes too hard to cum for sex because they're desensitised by mastubation. Try not using a toy for a few weeks, it might help
most women require some sort of stimulation other than just sex to orgasm. It's completely normal and you aren't alone. I can orgasm from manual stimulation, it does take a long time. Whereas with some toys I can come in minutes or even seconds.
I've always been the same, before I got a toy I could never orgasm.
I'd be interested to see what everyone suggests.
I don't believe mine is to do with 'death grip' seen as I couldn't orgasm at all before I got a toy but any answers will help :)
Kinky&Curvy wrote:
I've always been the same, before I got a toy I could never orgasm.
I'd be interested to see what everyone suggests.I don't believe mine is to do with 'death grip' seen as I couldn't orgasm at all before I got a toy but any answers will help :)
Now that your body knows how to orgasm, it might be worth seeing what happens if you take a break from toys. Worst case scenario, you go for a few weeks without. Best case scenario, you gain new options.
Luckily I can orgasm manually and with toys, but must admit that I've been using toys a bit too much and become a bit of a power Queen, so now manially takes longer. I think I just need a little break from the toys.
I cant really do manually either ....think just a handful of times in last 21yrs.
But with my toys its nearly everytime (only been using a couple of months now)
Once upon a time this was the same for me. It's a different story now though. I find heat really helps. The warmer it is down there, the easier it is!!! Hope this is useful
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Ever since I've been masturbating it has always been with help! (God bless the inventor of the electric toothbrush!) So I have always found it difficult to climax manually. I can do it, but usually have to be very very tunred on, and it required a lot of time. The climax doesn't tend to feel as good either.
Essentially I'm exactly the same as you juicylips20! I've been trying to 're-learn' how to bring myself to orgasm manually, but it will take some time, and I often get too impatient and reach for the vibrator!
My girlfriend has problems making herself cum using toys or fingers, it takes her a really long time, longer than she really has the stamina or patience for. She says it just doesn't feel as good as when I do it, so she doesn't enjoy it as much and can't make herself go. =/
I cannot orgasm with just sex... obviously oral but its hard for me and my partner to climax at the same time.
Try using this : http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30321
this is great because you can have it inserted whilst having sex. i use this all the time and it works wonders!
hope this helps.
Sx
My OH finds it difficult to orgasm if she solely masturbates (fingers or toys) as she hasn't been one in the past to do so but really enjoys foreplay when I do it with my fingers, sometimes this could be external rubbing or fingering of both at the same time and she will climax. Occasions it could take couple mins to 10 mins then she is also able to climax through intercourse as she is so turned on. Patience is key, she wasn't a fan of toys either but did it for my pleasure until last night when she has know found a toy she likes the feel of so once again it's just trying something new which could be a different position at a different speed of thrusting which could help.
I'm the same unfortunately, never climaxed during penetration with the OH though not through lack of trying! My OH now has a knack of using 2 fingers to stimulate my g-spot whilst giving me oral sex and I have had the most mind blowing orgasms recently, its taken us 14 years to get to this point though! My rabbit is the only thing that can make me orgasm through penetration so I know it is possible, just need a bit more time than my OH can give me lol. I've bought an abundance of toys, and watch porn to make me super horny so orgasms during self play are easy now.
If you climax through clit stim using vibrators to much can make it more difficult or so I have read.
I find it really hard to climax without any sort of toy. I need both G-spot and clitoral stimulation. x
I always used fingers until I started getting toys and then discovered that I could orgasm in a few minutes! But overuse of toys did dull the sensations when I went back to manual and it took a lot longer to climax so now I don't use toys every time and everything's now ok.
Maybe try laying off toys for a while and start getting to know your body with fingers a bit more also try using a lube that increases sensitivity a bit.
I managed to climax using my fingers only once. And my arm and my lady parts got so painful that I couldn't walk straight for days :) So my toys are really the only thing that really work for me.
If you want to be able to orgasm without vibrators, try using one like the silencer bullet which has 10 intensities, and edge yourself until you orgasm on lower and lower settings - it trains your body to orgasm with less vibration, and eventually none at all - I've been doing this with the silencer and bruce cassidy rabbit, I love my toys, but I don't ONLY want to orgasm with them!
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I personally try to take break from vibrators, and try to use just a dildo. I found using the vibrator too much, especially if it has powerful vibrations, does make me less sensitive. I can orgasm from just rubbing a curved dildo over my clitoris while thrusting it inside.
I cannot however orgasm from my fingers. I just do not react to my fingers like I can react to my partner. Not sure if I am weird but if I touch the same spot my partner does.... I just do not react in some or its a barely a reaction. And this goes for fingering myself. It feels good, but... Nothing. It never makes me finish.
I can orgasm from oral sex, although it can bit depend on how horny I am. As I am not on pill, this does vary during my monthly circle too.
But I was at point when orgasm with toy was the only option. Especially since it often took me an hour to orgasm. It did get better over the years and with practice. So do not give up hope.
I love my vibrating toys, but then I always use them too often then det annoyingly desensitised and have to wait for a few weeks, then after feeling deprived I get straight back onto the toys, use them too much, then get into a ridiculous viscious circle...