I have Agoraphobia, as well as OCD and probably some other things I dont know about. I also have Fibromyalgia which means I am in pain a lot but the general point is that I find it really difficult to leave my house. I get really anxious about it. However things are really coming to a head and I do not know what to do. I know this is off topic for this forum but I have been here a while and got to know a lot of people and feel safe to talk here. I apologise if I am offending anyone with my off topic-ness.
Anyway my problems have gotten so bad that I am now virtually housebound. I do everything I can possibly do online and my partner/friend helps with the rest. I just feel so anxious about leaving my comfort zones that I actually just get really angry and to the point of tears when I am almost forced to. And this is the problem...
I have tried to get therapy/counselling 3 or 4 times in the last 18 months (and did do a year of therapy about 6 years ago when I was slightly better than I am now) but when it has come around to going in for my appointments I bottle it! Then I beat myself up something rotten about it and continue living this way until I cannot stand it anymore and try again, going round in circles. I was lucky enough to find out from my doctor that I could have 6 half hour sessions on the telephone with a therapist and I have now finished those and I am supposed to go in for my next appointment. However the phone appointments were basic and did not even cut the initial layer of my problems and I have already rescheduled my appointment once and it is due again tomorrow and I am bottling it again. I just dont know why I cannot do it. I want to get better but the thought of it is making my brain bend and I dont want it to snap. I can feel myself getting upset and depressed and the problem is I cant even be diagnosed or treated for anything because I never get round to seeing anyone!
I have asked if I can at least be seen at home for a while until I can work through some of my intense fears but they do not do that in my area. (So they say) and I cannot afford private. I seem to be totally stuck really and I do not know at all how to overcome at least part of this mind fuck enough so I can at least go to appointments. As well as beating myself up I also feel like I am letting people down who are close to me and have to do extra work because of me and my anxieties.
So right now I am double beating myself up and working myself up about this to the point where I am ready to just quit it all again. Arghhh I am so unhappy and I dont know how to get out of this circle. I have had this for 15 years and its gradually got worse. My brain is so stubborn and any change, especially that makes me anxious just makes me angry and upset so badly I cannot stick to the changes. Arghhh!
Anyway I just wanted to talk, the only place I know where I can let it out and not be ripped a new one. If anyone has any advice or suffers similar and can help in any way I would welcome your advice really x