I find it challenging how reluctant my OH is to be more adventurous in bed. I've always tried to get a sense of what sort of things he would like to try, or what his fantasies are, but I get nothing! He loves me wearing suspenders and corsets, but that is all. He knows I'm very open minded, and willing to try many things, but he never acts on it. Could it be that some men such as him just don't have anything they want to try?
Anyway, one of my main fantasies is using under bed restraints, either way round (I love both being dominant and submissive). He has had a very low sex drive in the recent past, due to gastric medical issues, but he has recently found some medication that works, and his sex drive has been much better. So after umming and ahhing, I decided to get some, thinking 'what's the worst that can happen?!' Then the other day, after giving him head for a while, I told him I'd bought a little something I wanted to try out, and asked if he'd mind me tying him to the bed (I wasn't sure how to approach it, so that's the way it went!) I can't really tell what he was thinking but he looked inquisitive and said ''OK then..'' so I reached for the cuffs from under my bed which were already secured to the bed. But as I went to put one around his wrist, he pushed it away and said ''not now, there's plenty of time for that' and just wanted me to return to giving him a normal blow job, then sex in several positions on the floor. After a while, he returned to the bed, and gestured towards the cuffs and said ''ok, go on then...'' and I said ''are you sure? only if you want to!'' He said 'yes' but then was all twitchy about it when I put them around his wrists, and kept trying to reach down to touch himself (defeating the object of them somewhat!) I didn't even get to put the ankle restraints on, because I sensed he was so funny about it, so I quickly finished him off, and that was that :/
Would you say I went about this the wrong way? I suppose I must have! I think it is possible that he only likes being the dominating one, and that being submissive in that way takes him too far out of his comfort zone. Has anyone else experienced partners like this? He likes treating me rough and being quite forceful during sex, so I probably should have guessed. Maybe he'll put me in the cuffs at some point and enjoy it. I suppose I'll have to leave my ideas of tying him down in the world of fantasy!
Anyway, just posting because I would be very grateful to hear anyone's advice or suggestions about this :-) I've ended up feeling quite silly for buying them in the first place!