A few months ago my wife was having a lay in as she said she was tired. I popped up to see if she wanted a cup of coffee and she was playing with her sex toys. This caught me of guard as I didn’t realize this was what she did on her “lay ins”. We have been together for nearly 30 years and this was the first time I was aware of her masturbating. At first I thought it was a new thing and was worried I wasn’t satisfying her and that she wanted someone else. I have now found out that she has been doing it for most of the 30 years. Since the incident there have been a couple of times where I have tried to initiate but she has said not to night or I have a headache. The next morning she has taken a lay in with the door locked, which has me wondering if things aren’t as she has said.
When I think about it I don’t have an issue with her masturbating but I do feel resentful as I never have the same opportunity as her as I’m the one who has to walk the dog and do the morning chores. I find it hard that she has kept this a secret from me for nearly 30 years. Also I would love more sex as I have always had the higher sex drive but she says masturbation isn’t the same as sex. I have asked to watch as I find female pleasure a huge turn on but she said no this was her private time. I do find it difficult to deal with the times where she says no to sex but then masturbates the next morning, it kind of feels like she’s choosing that over me. Unfortunately this has made me paranoid and a bit jealous of the toys, part of me thinks I should just man up but I can’t help the feelings I have. I also feel a bit put on as I’m doing all the chores while she is having fun, I’ve always been a soft touch but I never thought she would take advantage of it. I’ve now stopped initiating sex so there is no risk of rejection.