Ok well hi, I hope someone can help me out, I have yet to get the big O. Or at less I dont think have, I am a vergin so never had sex but I do have toys that I have played but still seem to only get to a point and then it just goes. So anyone have any tips on how I can get there? Or am I just broken? So was woundering what are some good toys for solo play, nothing that is going to cost me alot as I am jobless so dont have alot of money. Any help would be amzaing thank you
I think the happy rabbits are best get in mood have hot bath or shower look at naughty magazines and relax it will come , excuse the pun
Mix it up with multiple toys or do something you consider naughty. Me and the wife had the same problem some time back, doing the same things over and over just stopped hitting the spot. Don’t worry your not broken, like Linda lusadi said just relax don’t stress about and have fun and it will come in time.
It sounds to me like you need to try other forms of stimulation, because what you have isn't working. Not every form of stimulation works on every one. For me, for example, no amount of use of a dildo (on it's own) will make me cum. I need direct clitoral stimulation to do that.
Enjoy the search, and remember, it isn't all about the big O. There is lots of fun to have on the way. Please be careful not to pressure yourself too much. I did that with trying to squirt, and it didn't work. I did squirt eventually when I wasn't trying.
I also agree with trying something you feel naughty as it’s a thrill which sets the mood. Do try to have a relaxed time and place as any anxiety of being heard or interrupted will kill the vibe too. Have you tried watching porn? Girls masturbating may help or as you are a virgin romantic couples making love. Google female friendly porn to find suitable videos. Good luck I’m sure that you will cum soon and once you do it’s easier from then on.
Looking at your profile it seems you've tried a few toys over the years, and a book on masturbation techniques too, so I won't bore you with basics. 🙂 As others have said, feeling relaxed and comfortable is important. Do you live alone? Finding a bit of private, personal time where you're not worried someone's going to barge in or overhear can make all the difference.
Some people really enjoy reading erotica to get themselves in the mood. I believe Literotica is a good source of free stories. Maybe that would help? If you're more visual there's always porn.
Failing that, a suction toy can be really good for some people who are struggling. 👍 Every body is different, so everyone won't like every toy equally, but I think they're definitely worth looking into.
Thanks everyone inwill keep all that in mind, I dont live alone I live with my mum, dad and brother so finding alone time it hard. It also stops me using some of my toys as they are to noisy lol But ya I will keep trying, I just hate being 27 and never having felt one always makes me feel like something is wrong with me. But o well maybe it is just not my time yet lol
I wouldn't give up quite yet. 🙂 Obviously having your own place would be a lot easier, but few people have the perfect set up (if not parents, then siblings, housemates, kids, dog that won't stop staring, etc). You can create a bit of private space either in your room, or even in the bathroom/shower. A bit of music can help cover any sounds as long at you're not too noisy, and the duvet muffles a lot of toy noise. A doorstop wedged under the closed door can help keep people out, or at least give you a bit of breathing space if anyone has a habit of just barging in. 🙂 Timing is good if you know people's routines.
There are quite a few quiet toys. Dildos are fun (especially glass), and they're about as silent as you can get. 🙂 A lot of people find they work really well with something like a bullet so you get both internal and external stimulation simultaneously. 👍 I think the quietest toy we've used is the Flash (it's also super discreet as well). I would say it's more of a medium strength toy, but the curved tip is great for placing it exactly where you want it. It was Mrs Chimp's only toy for quite a while until we went a bit crazy and bought everything. 🙂
Flash https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=26627
Beaded Glass dildo https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30946
Those two are both Lovehoney toys so are often in the sales if you keep an eye out. 👍🙂
As others have said, enjoy yourself even if you don't manage to orgasm. If you're too hard on yourself chasing after them you can scare them off. 🙂
Firstly, if you don't already have any, get two enormous cushions to decorate your bed. Recline on them with a book or phone so that the people you live with know that you do this.
Then, take the the cushions into the bathroom with your book or phone, and turn on the shower or bath taps. 'Me time'.
Put your book/phone to one side.
You will already have sneaked some toys into the cushion cover. My suggestion would be a good clitoral bullet, and a good internal toy too - vibrating or otherwise, up to you. Include lube - use lots. Don't bother with a Rabbit until later - they are a bit of a faff to get right. Go for slimline toys if you are a virgin. Here are a couple which can be used together:
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=14042
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=15687
The noise of the shower / taps will drown out anything else, so you can recline on your cushions and play around, experiment, take your time. Go with what feels good and put all thoughts of orgasm to one side.
I read somewhere that a good percentage of women take 45mins of 'turning on', so do give yourself lots of time. I'd start with cheap and cheerful battery toys until you find out what you like. Tracey Cox and Lovehoney own brand are all good.
Wishing you all the best!
Hello again! I've just read your profile, which will teach me to go jumping in too soon with advice, as you have been here longer than I have.
I can't offer anything others haven't but I hope you find what you are looking for. Sometimes doors open when you least expect them to.