@Wood_Wow thank you!
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@SubCharles it’s a really difficult one , you will have to see if things happen my In laws live in a Torquay They have said on numinous occasions that they will move back near us since the eldest was born she’s 21 now and still no sign of them coming up here, I can take them or leave them they do not interfere with what we do or try to impose their view on us , but I think it’s not easy for people with difficult parents or in laws sorry this has proven no use to you but hope you get things sorted 
Thanks @Gazza_64 - wasn’t really expecting Eureka answer but I appreciate your comments.
Overriding emotion is i hope they revise their plans but ultimately if they do come here it’s being firm and setting clear rules. I need to chat to my other half that if they don’t respect this then sadly we’ll have to leave.
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Oh you are so not out of line. Being on your own and thinking about a situation that you’re not looking forward to is horrible. If you’re anything like me your imagination will already be speeding ahead thinking of all the worst possible scenarios.
How concerned is your girlfriend about this? Do you think you’d be able to put up a united front? It really would be a terrible shame if you were forced to move somewhere else because of this.
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She agrees with me and she did send them a message to that effect. She’d strongly rather they didn’t come but sadly she’s been conditioned by decades of overpowering dictatorial behaviour to that point where she’s subliminally not able to stand up to it and instead just pretends like it won’t be as bad as I strongly think it will be and that I’m overreacting.
Whilst we do agree on the gist it’s sadly causing arguments between us already over the last 24 hours.
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You can’t really stop them moving nearby, but you can set ground rules if they do. Like already stated, make them ring before visits, and if they just turn up, you don’t have to answer the door.
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True, a lifetimes conditioning can’t be undone overnight.
You don’t need to draw up a whole rule book but simple things like phoning ahead before coming round, not just “popping” in unannounced and respecting your privacy are not too much to ask in my opinion.
And yes… don’t answer the door to them if they turn up out of the blue. Or you both answer the door, looking dishevelled like you’ve been having sex and make it clear you’re not impressed with the disturbance! Maybe it’d embarrass them into respecting your boundaries?
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@wildflower omg love your way of thinking around that problem hun 
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@wildflower you legend. I’ll order myself a PVC maids outfit with a gimp mask on and invite them round for tea. Surely they’ll do the trick.
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Imagine the shock on their faces! 
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@SubCharles see if you can get a drum of lube to leather chaps with the ass cut out that should work with everything else
Sounds like that’ll do it!
Just hope like hell that they don’t take one look and exclaim, “Ooh…! You’re into that too…!” lol 
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My young daughter asked me, daddy what is the difference between in-laws and outlaws?
I replied, outlaws are wanted.
My latest one…went to in-laws on Mother’s Day and the mil says to me as soon as i enter “Oh you have a nice tan, glad someone’s got time to sit in the sun”
The fact that i had been back off holiday a week, and had sat out in it for a couple of hours after work that week was beside the fact!
Also i have done an 8 hour shift most days before the inlaws are even out of bed, and do the lion’s share of the household chores . Whilst they are retired and do feck all except go shopping, so if they want to sit in the sun they have plenty of time!
I could write a very large book about the irritating situations the mil has put me in!
Fortunately i am able to bite my tongue!
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@WillC I have the best in laws as they live 247 miles away and I have nothing to do with them unless they visit or we go to visit them 
which was 3 years ago, but they have threatened to visit in June
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You’ve just about got enought time to sell up and move! 
Here’s another…get a phone call to say they have bought a new dvd player, but all they’re getting is a snowy/static picture. So i go to theirs to have a look. I get around the back of the tv and see that they have a scart lead and av lead (the red, white, yellow one) both connected. I say to mil that you don’t need both plugged in. She replies “Yes you do or they wouldn’t supply both”
I just remove the av lead and guess what? Perfect picture!
They WILL not read instructions! 
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Just seen the latest responses! Long time since this post.
They still have the hump for our response albeit don’t say anything to us. They are completely useless. Other half agrees completely.
We’re due to have our first born in July. Certainly won’t deny them a relationship with the baby albeit it’ll have to be on our terms and will desperately try to not impose my feelings on my kid in relation to them but at the same time I won’t seek to defend them. They can make their own mind up.
Awaiting the battle when they come and visit. One thing is for sure, they won’t be staying here. We’ll have enough on.
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