Hello,
I need a bit of advice. I am getting more responsibility at work, but I am not sure I can handle.
Long story short, I have impostor syndrom. Most likely cause by my childhood experience, when I was constantly put down as just a useless woman, especially by my grandparents, and by the stress of my monther for performance, to be perfect.
Basically, I am not able to handle the stress, because I feel like I not doing good job. I feel like I am just useless crap, taking place of someone, who can manage this much better. And that I just stole that person place. Its terrible feeling. It is present in my hand most of the days. And its tearing me apart inside. I do see professional help once a month and I been learning how to cope with this better, but there are times, when it suddenly gets the better of me.
The worse feeling is, that on one level I know I do deserve the trust and position, that I earnt it, but at the same time... other part of my "brain" is telling me I am just useless and pretender and just mere worthless woman, who should be keeping her head down and not trying to tell more experienced people they messed something up and advising solutions... Especially since its extremely technical.
Usually this happens during increase of stress levels and when I am not feeling like I can handle.
I see only one way out of this, and that is to give up the responsibility at work and just go down. I think for my sake this will be the best option. My team leader knows I am suffering from this, but I really cannot cope. My mental state is bit worsening and I cannot have this responsibility. But at the same time, I feel like far worse failure than before...
I am sorry for putting this on you... Just this is anonymous and... well... I needed to get it out between people who do not know me in RL. Not even my family knows. Just my boss, and 3 closest friends. My current partner.