I am more than happy for my wife to play with my arse... however when looking at the site recently my wife saw a strap on and firmly said "thats never gonna happen". My fingers up her bum are an integral part of our lovemaking and she has on occassion been kind enough to return the favour. Thanks to a few products we have bought recently we are being a lot more open about our desires and fetishes.
My main problem is that my wife is not a great lover of toys. I used to purchase random toys from a well known high street store that were either used once or discarded to a drawer to perish. We have recently been experimenting with bondage and a kinkier side of my wife has started to show and I plan to explore anal on an upcoming weekend away. On the occassions I have rimmed her I have loved it and I know she has to but I think she is concerened with cleanliness.
I now have the problem of whipping out and introducing the following on the weekend away..
1) anal douche... not exactly something you can bring out in the heat of passion!
2) butt plug... once I have overcome the hurdle of number 1, shouldnt be an issue. I set a challenge of both of us bringing someting away to surprise the other. My wife expressed a desire to be blindfolded, I suggested we check out the site for a blindfold and she went a bit further and bought the Tracey Cox bondage set and nipple clamps... Lovehoney I cant thank you enough! I plan on a slight role play scenario where she wears the butt plug whilst we go for a meal.
3) and this is the problem, I bought http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=10239 to all those who have just started to experiment with anal, would you be horrified if this was whipped out and presented? Im having serious second thoughts.
For some reason the link didn't work, but I think I found it, is it the Double Penetrator Cock Ring Anal Vibrator Strap On?
If so, I have to be totally honest, that probably would have made me a bit nervous as an anal beginner and I love toys and further down the line with stuff like bondage, but that looks a bit much for a beginner. Just my opinion though.
There are some really nice beginner plugs, that are far less daunting and would probably make her more relaxed to try.
the first one isnt great because of the shape. Its pretty much straight and i found that meant that it was always pushing itself out. You literally have to hold it in place or it slips out. The base of it is large and so doesnt get past your bum cheeks unless you seperate them so it can be awkward.
The second one is a different shape, so once its in it stays put. Notice how it tapers in so you close around the narrow part of it. The t shape means that it sits between your cheeks very comfortably.
the only problem i had was that if the woman wears it during sex, depending on their anatomy, the end of the t bar can rub against the penis.
Remember to use plenty of lube, and i recomend the lh anal lube as its thick and long lasting.
With regards to douching, im on the fence. My hubby always douches and ive only done it once before anal play. I have never had any accidents so far so im not convinced the douche is entirely necessary.
I cant open the link to see your mystery item, but for me the natural course for anal play was one finger, two fingers, small butt plug, medium butt plug, small dildo, penis.
Ok i tried penis before dildo, but its much more enjoyable using a small dildo first to loosen up and then progress to penis. I use a 5.5 inch silicone dildo as foreplay before anal. It makes things a lot easier!