My OH loves it when I finger her bum during sex, and recently held a bullet vibrator against her bum
( her idea! ) she got really turned on and began talking really dirty ' oh god It feels like I'm being fucked and butt fucked at the same time' needless to say both really enjoyed it.
this has got me to thinking if she would like to try a small butt plug, I really get turned on thinking about it but I'm worried if I try to introduce it and it doesn't go down well I may turn her away from anal games again!!
The best thing to do is to have a chat with your OH and suggest it. It sounds, from what you have said, as though she would find it exciting and a turn on. There lots of beginners plugs to choose from on here. Make sure you also use a good quality anal lube and just take your time and build up slowly. I personally use either Sliquid Sassy or Maximus - but there are lots of anal lubes on LH to choose from:
Thanks for the reply, we are often quite open about talking sex while we're actually having it!
but talking and planning sex would I fear be awkward, somehow can't see us sharing a glass of wine while we peruse the LH website discussing the merits of various butt plugs!!!!
shes quite shy and a bit threatened by stuff like that. I recently introduced a bullet vibrator and the initial response was hesitant to say the least, it came with special panties with a pocket in, I suggested I leave her with it, and took the dog for a walk, when I got back she was walking around with a big smile on her face! And now calls it her buzzy friend.
so you see I have to tread very carefully re. The 'Anal' thing much as I know she's curious I could easily 'cock it up!' (Or not ha ha)
Hmmm have watched porn once and it was sort of ok. But I find porn is either way too hardcore or too cheesy for words if anybody knows of any better please let me know?
From experience, I'd say talk it over & go slow with it all. At first I was apprehensive about it but we agreed to buy the Lovehoney basic butt plug & kept it for when I felt comfortable. I wouldn't suggest forcing the idea, let her know about it them wait for her to let you know. Hope all goes well ^_^
This is really naughty of me... And I know you should be honest with your partners But on occasions if I don't know how my oh will be I say lh sent it to "test"! That way I don't have the embarrassment of saying oh look what I brought. Think it's more of a confidence thing & not knowing how he will react (hands up im guilty)
From experience, I'd say talk it over & go slow with it all. At first I was apprehensive about it but we agreed to buy the Lovehoney basic butt plug & kept it for when I felt comfortable. I wouldn't suggest forcing the idea, let her know about it them wait for her to let you know. Hope all goes well ^_^
Agree with this.
I was the one who introduced it to my ex, and it started off with firstly her knowing I am into it - whoch you guys have already discovered.
It then progressed to massages to get her relaxed, and build the intimacy and trust further before any sort of penetration.
Then moved onto to simply one lubed finger. With using a finger as opposed to straight to ehr toy, you are able to feel her sphincter muscles relax firstly, but also if she twitches and tightens up. Make sure your fingers are well groomed!
Gives you an feeling of what she is going through.
In time you can move on to toys.
Overall, take time and enjoy the experiences you can share together. It is a wonderful journey you are embarking on here.
My only other advice is to ofer yourself up for the same play - puts things on an even keel and you will both understand what each other are going through and build a fantastic foundation for this play and a lot more
Is she into bondage? If she likes you to be in control you could buy one and use it on her while she is tied up Tell her your going to use it and give her a safe word incase she doesn't want to do it
Interesting! Yes she does like a bit of bondage and spanking. It's a long story but she was abused by her first and much older boyfriend, many years ago. He used to tie her spread eagle and face down then whip her with a belt before roughly fucking her! This was her introduction to loving sex???? It has left her all these years later with conflicting emotions with regard to sex. She is very turned by being tied up but still has the ghosts of the past to deal with.So you see I have to be very careful regarding all things sexual as she can sometimes be threatened by it and it takes an awfully long time to feel comfortable again. I have often got it wrong but when I get it right the results are spectacular😍
You can tell her it's the same size (if not smaller) than your finger, and although you love putting your finger up there you thought it would be nice to try this so your hands are free to stimulate her in other places?
Sounds like your'e half way there... This is exactly how it started with my OH... Why not simply keep doing what you're doing, especially the vibe, which seems to be appreciated - but apply it with an inch more pressure ;) FWIW my OH now usually asks for her bum to be 'done' while she is using her LH 'wand' :D
Ok so my LH small butt plug just arrived, ordered it before I start this thread! Tried it on myself, felt the right thing to do, if I can't take it why should I expect her to?? It is much more comfortable than I though it would be and I think should would like the feeling full sensation especially with my cock in her pussy too😃 feel a bit more confident now but I'll probably bottle it with her😞