Me and my wife have always had a fun interesting sex life you know trying new things to test the boundaries, buying different toys to try etc. I want to try to introduce her to a few different kinks to see if there anything she might like but she’s never understood the different kinks out there, and never really watched porn that involves kinks so how can I introduce her to this without scaring her away from it or sounding like a creep about it?
wel what are you in to now and what do you want to introduce ?
I didn’t go into much detail with that did I, so this is the milder stuff like basic bondage dominance maybe anal play. Lite bdsm I suppose, work our way up from there to see if something would interest her. We have have both done a fare bit since we’ve got together 14 years ago but I’m just interested to see if I can bring a new spark to the bedroom and maybe spark a new interest for her.
Maybe if she’s being ‘naughty’ threaten to ‘punish’ her by tying her up or spank her. If you want to introduce a gag, then if she’s being noisy threaten to gag her. See what responses you get. You should be able to tell if she’s willing by her response.
If she knows about Lovehoney and the forum then you can simply have a browse of the different categories/sections together, or read out bits from some of the threads. 👍 There's also some quizzes you can do where you both fill in what you'd be interested in trying and then compare. I think there's even an online/app one where it only shows the ones you've matched on. I can't remember the name of it, but maybe someone else can?
If you're looking for something a bit lighthearted and fun then there's the new Lovehoney Adult Activity Book which has a few quizzes mixed in with the puzzles. There's things like Bondage Bingo, Would You Rather, Let's Get Quiz-ical, or Fantasy Feels - each of which allows you to ask and answer questions based on what you'd both like to try next. It's not hardcore, but can definitely be a conversation starter, and it's silly enough to be completely non-threatening. 👍
Activity Book https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=42729
I 100% echo the 'having a look together comment' it's something me and husband do regularly and I think we both surprise each other when we mention the things we would like to try or are interested in. Some of the things have not worked but most of them have been great and really enhanced our sex life! I found that it took the pressure off as it certainly became a more mutual thing to rather than one side pushing to try something. Good luck!
for us it all started when my wife read 50 shades of grey so ya could try that lol the punish idear is good to thats stopped many an argument before its even started to lol allthough sometimes im sure she anoys me for a spanking !
I would absolutely echo the Activity Book suggestion and would also suggest that you google MojoUpgrade and do the legacy quiz. You both fill in 'Yes, No, If my partner wanted' to a large list of sex activities and it shows the ones where you match.
Opens up some fun things and you can test yourselves again a few weeks afterwards.
Other options would be mutually watching porn that incorporates your interests, sending over erotica or a video and actively suggesting you try it or simply browsing forums like this one for ideas. I also heavily recommend mutually viewing /r/sex over at reddit, as they have a list of guidance on literally everything.
We started down the kink path by discussing fantasies and dreams. At no point was it suggested that we would do any of them, it was just a sexy discussion.
I decided there were a couple of his fantasies that I would be prepared to do once just so he could tick them off. I wasn't kinky at all, so this was quite an admission. It turned out I enjoyed them, so we did them again and again, and things moved on from there really.