To some of you it may seem a stange title but with me just over 50 , I do come from a very much different generation than most of you younger ones who prefer a fast lane approach to modern lifestyles .
A few of the problems that people wanted advice on , on this forum and others appears to have been attributed to a lack or ignorance of romance.
My definition of romance basically is thinking more of my partner than myself . By this I mean things like for no apperent reason I decided to pick up a bunch of flowers for her.If i see some really sexy underwear ( I know her size) I will buy these for her. Most of her lingerie I have bought for her. When I come home from work I will always give her a cuddle and if her back is turned to me, whilst she is preparing food I will hold her and kiss her neck and perhaps pat her bottom as well .In a nut shell ,I show her that I very much apperciate her as my partner and spoil her to bits. I know it sounds soppy and some of you will be getting out the sick bucket no doubt but we do say to each other at least once an evening how much we love each other.We will also have a cuddle together every evening even if too tired for sex.
When we feel that we want sex ,its never a case of lets get our kit off as fast as we can. It tends to be a slow cuddling, kissing and undressing process perhaps over drinks and a meal . This process might take the best part of the evening . We just don't seem to be wired for the spontaneous sex approach which is very much evident in the modern liferstyles of today .
Sometimes I just wonder if the fault is with me/us for being perhaps too old fashioned , hence I would l very much like to learn your views.