Is Using A Fleshlight Cheating

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That is true! I am working on the basis that it is the user!!

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@firsttimeposter Iā€™d find it pretty hot if my partner had one. And, even hotter if he told me about it :smiling_face_with_horns: :fire: Might have to ask him now :laughing:

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Definitely not cheating.

My OH has a few male masturbators, fleshlight & other brands.

We sometimes masturbate whilst watching each other with our toys.

A big turn on for both of us I might add.

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Your hubby can use a fleshlight even if he isnā€™t hard enough for PIV? The fleshlight and smaller pocket striker require me to be pretty firm to get inside of it.

Do you know which one you have?

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Havent got the foggiest its just a clear one, i did offer to get him one that looked more realistic but he said no. So i got him the wand that has a ring on the end that he puts it through. That way i can use my mouth as well at the same time. He is perfectly happy with it. He could get inside it if i used my mouth on him beforehand but he didnt like it and he got soft after a little while so i had to start over again.

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Ok now Iā€™m intrigued about what you mean by ā€˜the wand with a ring at the endā€™. Not sure I know what this is but it sounds interesting.

I too will have an occasional ED episodes so Iā€™m always on the lookout for tools or methods for when this occurs and knowing you and your hubby also experience the same I follow your posts with interest.

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Its black and looks a bit like a wand but has a ring on the end. I got it from lh

Its called Desire luxury 20 Function Vibrating Male Stroker and it really helps.

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Sorry for butting in @Pogo69 but If have a wand already, you can get an attachment which is for the penis here. Alternatively could look at something like the Play 7 which fits around the Penis :blush:

or the one mentioned by @Wood-Nymph is

https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/male-sex-toys/male-masturbators/p/desire-luxury-20-function-vibrating-male-stroker/a44559g80237.html

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Thanks @Stacy2 i seem to have forgotten how to put in a link.

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No, not cheating at all. Itā€™s an inanimate object. Even if itā€™s modeled after a specific femaleā€™s vagina. Itā€™s still just a product you can buy.

My wife very much enjoys watching, helping, or participating in my masturbation sessions with a flashlight. No different than me enjoying watching, helping, or participating while she masturbates using one of her dildos.

Neither of us consider this cheating in any way. Itā€™s just a tool to help your partner enjoy different forms of sexual enjoyment.

Thatā€™s my opinion anyway. :blush:

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There is a few ways;

  • Copy and paste the link from the website
  • Use the :link: (Which makes the word purple)
  • or my favourite which is the shortcut

[Word you want clickable](The link)

And no problem. Always happy to help :blush:

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No its not.

Flip it and its like asking is having a dildo cheating.

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Wow that attachment to a wand looks very interesting. Thank you @Stacy2 and @Wood-Nymph.

We donā€™t have a wand. My wife loves her one vibrator that is not a LH one and her clit sucker. Is a wand that much different from a vibrator for you? Ours is specifically for the clit.

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I have the Hummer that @Stacy2 linked.

Itā€™s great the sensations feel absolutely quivering :drooling_face:

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@Pogo69 I think itā€™s about personal preference. If sheā€™s happy with the toys you have, then maybe stick with them - unless sheā€™s looking for something different. The only difference would be the power of the vibrations (less is better for some women) more coverage (less being precise when near the clit). The added benefit is a man can also use it if desired. Lovehoney do sell more attachments, One, Two, three which also look interesting :blush:

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Now it looks like I have to make another purchase :grin::grin::grin:

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I have a mini wand for me but the stroker i bought was for hubby to use.

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I donā€™t see it as cheating in the same way that using a vibrator or a dildo is not cheating, it is just a toy / tool to get the job done in a particular or better way. My husband has a Fleshlight and says it is a very good / strong orgasm using it. I would much rather him cum in a Fleshlight than have to clean up with tissues!

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@teacake we have a couple of days being a vibrator and butt plug which i got for her ao not anti toys

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Keen to know thr verdict once yoy asked thr question

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