I joined to get some new ideas for my wife and me. As we are both getting on in life, it’s taking its toll on us both. I suffer from ED (medication-related), and my wife is perimenopause and just starting the journey of HRT etc. Both suffer from a lack of time / privacy (Kids), not desire.
Both fairly adventurous in the bedroom when we get the chance. often engage in Pegging, and the toy chest is more akin to a lovehoneys warehouse (We seem to have a problem)
I enjoy wearing latex and have more items than most people have t-shirts. (Working from home does come with benefits)
Sorry probably too much info and not the target audience.
Thought the age and the ED would make me a bit of an outcast..
@steve19 Whish people would talk more about it so to reduce the stigma behind it..
Also whish there were more strap-on’s for men that were comfortable.
Wife now over 60 and intercourse been off the agenda for about 10 years which is a shame. Due to other medical issues Viagra not available but at hospital next week to try some cream? @themax
@steve19 Viagra does kinda work for me, just dont get fully hard (not enough for penetration), Also gives me the sniffles and a flushed face but use it now and then.. Must admit not tried the other ones.
Not heard of any creams so hope you find something that works for you. Its such a frustration as its not lack of desire just something does not want to play.
Must say my wife has been fantastic over it and both of us have become much better at forplay and other ways to get each other off..
@themax Hello and welcome to the forums . Did I read that right , you joined in 21’ ? As an older gentleman I can relate to no longer being able to chisel granite or cut diamonds with my erection . My wife is disabled and has zero sexual drive , from meds and post menopause . It may not seem like it , but you are very lucky that your wife has an interest . I dream of at minimum , mutual masterbation . My tongue still works as if I was 21 . The other limiting factor is flexibility . Good luck on finding mutually beneficial help .
@Oldman Yea Joined in 21 and lerked for years and years.. Not sure if I wanted to post personal details of our sexual habits online.. Wrote the intro above several times over the years. Each time bottling it and going back to lurking. Seem to have gotten old enough to say stuff it. Like it or leave it.
We try to keep the spark alive. seems to be once or twice a month when we get time. Taking Viagra knocks the spontaneity out of sex, as does cleaning yourself for pegging. So most of it is mutual masturbation / oral sex, Anal Toys seem to help me get stiffness to allow masterbation so both are happy for toys to be used.. Flexibility is another thing it’s amazing how we stiffen (Shame other things don’t) up as we age but we have both do yoga (at home) and that has helped amazingly in only a few weeks.
Just the right amount of info, this is a great place to talk about all this kinda stuff and seek advice or just feel listened to welcome to the forum sir