Wondering if anyone has any experience with attending a Killing Kittens party?
My wife has suggested she wants to go to their new year’s party this year which I’m up for but bit apprehensive about if it’s out sort of thing? She wants to go because she thinks it will boost her confidence and that it could be fun but is unsure if it would be a bit much for her.
My concern is that essentially it would be around £1000 for us to attend, we get there and it’s not our scene. We would have a firm no playing with others rule, I am also not much of a dancing/party type (I like to sit in the corner with a drink and talk)
Do they still “vet” people before they allow them to attend to make sure that you are gorgeous enough to attend their parties? Sorry, not an answer to your question but an “interesting” aspect to what they do. I remember @Sophie01 went to a sex party a few years back and posted about it, not sure if it was KK though.
I have no heard of Killing kittens so show I am not in the loop. I remember @Sophie01 writing about it a few years ago. If you are not going to share i’m not sure its the right event for you, would a sex club be better. Unfortunately I thing any sort of party you are going to have to be social with others
I only know KK by name from a few years back on Fab and they very much only allowed the beautiful people to attend. I think people are much more beautiful with a bit of texture about them. Not that I’m saying you’re not beautiful, I’m sure you’re both stunning specimens
I would suggest contacting KK and asking what their expectations are, just to make sure their events fit what you want. You don’t have to participate, no matter where you are but if the expectations are that you do, then its not the place for you. You will need to check if you’re their type also…fickle beings that they are!
It is a lot of money to sit in a corner and chat, you could probably do that much closer to home for a lot less.
Never been, I’m waaaaay too obese to get an invite.
Its ridiculously pricey, too!
I’ve attended many swingers clubs throughout the years, I’d recommend researching some. They have some great NYE parties.
I went to a couple of similar things in my younger days with a girl who was my on off FWB. Every time we were single we’d hook up, but then stop when one of us got a partner, until the next time we both found ourselves single at the same time.
We did go to a couple of these kind of things and had a lot of fun both together and with others, but I know I couldn’t do it with a committed partner, I am just not the sharing type.
It was expensive and yes we were vetted for looks (not a problem in our early 20’s when we were both very good looking). Honestly I can’t see the attraction if there’s a no playing with other rule in place, it just doesn’t seem worth it. I get you might be cagey but if you want to get the best out of it you need to embrace it and get with it.
If that’s really not for you I just can’t see why you’d go personally. That’s 2 attendees who won’t interact with anyone else, get too many like that and the whole concept is a bust and some people will have parted with a lot of money and really built this thing up in anticipation.
I kind of feel like it’s not overly fair on other guests to go and take up a space that could be used by somebody who is actually willing to play with them. Not that that’s a reason to do anything you’re uncomfortable with, but I just think it might be a reason to consider whether attending is the right thing.
Exhibitionism and voyeurism is their kink, if I’m remembering right. They have as much right as anyone else to go to any party, as long as they check with the organisers first.
If it was a small private party, I’d agree with you but thats not going to be what this is.
Personally i think you can have as much fun in another Club for a quarter of the price , I dont know where you live sorry but we have been to numerous " Big nights out " at a club about 60 miles from us and have had loads of fun . im not advertising the club as i have no financial interest in the place but that sounds extortionate to be honest
Thanks all, I don’t think they still vet based on looks but you do have to go through a bit of a procedure not to mention the monthly fee to have an account. I’m pretty confident we’d pass vetting either way.
Expectation wise from the organisers is kinda non existent. I know they are perfectly happy with people coming that don’t share as it allows for anyone with exhibitions or voyeuristic tendancies.
From the little information there is my expectations of it was a social nye party 1st and a sex party 2nd but would have liked some 1st hand knowledge.
I think we will probably give it a miss this year. Maybe find something similar and either closer or cheaper.
Back some ten years ago I was a girl a lot of guys wanted (life has not been kind to me) but these days I’ve gained a lot of weight, I look tired/stressed, so with a lot of people it’s just a friendly chat. I do find that regardless of vetting that there is still a beauty standard within these places, whether the organisers let you in or not. I used to attend a BDSM club and there was a girl who used to walk around in a tight corset and her boobs spilling out over the top, every man wanted to be with her. Even if her personality kind of sucked (she’d blatantly try and make other guys jealous), she was never alone, yet the larger ladies with less attractive features hardly got a looking. The flipside is also that you can end up disappointed, that someone who takes an interest in you, doesn’t interest you. Has happened to me quite a few times.
Personally, any time I (we) go to events, I do just stick with hubby, whether or not that’s the rules. I know him and I like him, he knows me and he likes me. It takes more than a few hours of small talk for me to know whether I want to be getting up close and personal with someone, but maybe that’s just me.
If your partner wants to boost her confidence, a sex club probably is not the place because if she is largely ignored, it will destroy her confidence even more. Remember fantasy vs reality: the fantasy for her is people will find her attractive, but what if they don’t? The better way to boost her confidence is to believe she is attractive, try flirting with people and maybe try ethical non-monogamy, if that interests you both, where you can make your own rules.
I hope you have fun, whatever you decide. Personally myself, I’ll probably be somewhere between anxious and rueful about what I did and didn’t achieve over the past year. Seems to happen every year
So I had to google because I had never heard of a Killing Kittens party. Today I Learned.
Not specific advice on this but general advice - when trying something new that has a range of price points, dont start at the top end. This applies equally to cycling, retro game collecting and KK parties.
Try the lower middle price first to see if its your thing. Besides the economics of it, it removes a lot of stress that could ruin your ability to objectively decide.
Funnily one my work friends told me about this last month and said how classy they can be given the sexy attendance around it! Apparently it was great and very chilled in that there wasn’t any pressure for doing things and many just enjoy the open talks connecting
