For years I have enjoyed wearing women’s knickers and lingerie especially anything silky In previous relationships worn their knickers and lingerie when they haven’t been around. Then I started to date 1 that was open minded and even sent me her knickers in the post to wear which was fun.
Now I am married still like to wear her stuff etc but she don’t know about it. I did pluck up the courage after a drink an put her knickers on, she laughed an said they look radicals on. The ones she threw out I have kept, god help it if she finds out .
But it was only recently that she found things on my phone thought I was cheating, so I told her the truth that I had a fetish with wearing knickers and lingerie took alot for me to say but it had to come out. The only problem she ain’t into it. How can I convince her that it could be good for our sex life?
Maybe next time your about to have a session mention you might like to dress up and then very Slowly perform a strip tease perhaps. Giving her all your attention and focus. Hopes after that she won’t give a damn what you wearing
You can’t. That’s the harsh reality of fetishes, you can’t.
If your partner is onboard with your fetish then great, you can have fun exploring it together, but if they’re not then you have some monumentally tough decisions to make, and yes, I know it’s tough.
I myself have a kind of medical kink not shared by my husband. Heaven knows what it is, but it’s pervaded my mind for years. My husband isn’t interested in it in the least, even if several other men find it hot. You can’t force someone to enjoy your kink, just because you find it hot.
Ultimately, you have three options: you could discuss ethical non-monogamy with your wife and explore your fetish with someone else, though that’s a tall order for many otherwise-monogamous peaple. You cauld continue enjoying your fetish alone, at least knowing that your wife now knows. Or you could try and forget about it, as hard as that’s going to be.
Personally, I chose option B, but I wish you the best in whatever you decide
Wish you luck
I’ve been wearing lingerie most of my adult life on n off
I’ve been married 25 plus years
Wife knows nothing about it
I stopped wearing when we got married and then the guys I was masturbating with on line were wearing and I started again
I’d definitely try to carry on as I’m sure you find it’s part of your make up
Wish you luck x
One thing that helped me when I told my wife about wearing stockings was - and this is the truth - having them on made me think of her all day long wearing the same thing because I could constantly feel them on me.
My wife was initially concerned it was a gender identity thing that would be a huge change for our marriage but once she understood it was a harmless private fetish and it was something that made me have sexy thoughts about her, she could see some upsides and embraced it.
I wouldn’t be wanting to convince her. I think you need to accept that her feelings in the topic are valid and hers.
Maybe have a conversation about what it is that she doesn’t like about it, then maybe you can have an. Open chat about things. Maybe explain what it is about it that you enjoy etc.
Sometimes in relationships you will come to odd ends with stuff you enjoy and they don’t but as long as each half accepts that and gives space regardless if it isn’t their thing then all should go swimmingly. This is all apart of being your unique self and staying true to your joys. I’m sure there are things she must love that you aren’t into
I’m sure keeping it from her and her finding out how she did, has probably had a lot to do with how she now feels about it.
I’m not one for convincing people, no means no and thats the end of it, you need to accept and respect that.
I would suggest that you have a conversation with her though, when you’re not on the defensive and trying to prove you’re not cheating. Not to convince her but just to let her know what it does for and to let her know you’re going to continue to do it but privately because you respect her.
She may become curious and ask about it, but she may not and that shouldn’t be your goal.
In previous relationships worn their knickers and lingerie when they haven’t been around. Then I started to date 1 that was open minded and even sent me her knickers in the post to wear which was fun.
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