Lasting longer in bed

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Good evening all,

Any suggestions on how to last longer in bed (male)

When I first had sex with my current girlfriend we were going at it for at least 45 mins making the moment very loving and enjoyable for us both.

Now I can’t really last longer than 5 mins, even though nothing has changed (still having foreplay etc).

Now I feel like I let the other half down as I finish so quickly.

Any suggestions on what to do or what has potential caused this to happen?

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hey @supercloud7

Maybe your girlfriend is just so amazingly hot and sexy you are powerless against her sex powers!!! :slight_smile:

In terms of lasting longer, I know there are creams and stuff (I’m not a fan)

I would personally say, try a few things like:

  • Go slow: read up on some tantra, try different positions, avoid lots of thrusting
  • Edging: try and pull back when you get close and calm down
  • Breathing: have a look at some breathing exercises to do when trying to calm down!
  • Focus on her: if you don’t want to let her down, massage her, worship her and focus on her pleasure - do you guys like toys? If so, take it in turns to use them on her so she has lots of orgasms before you eventually ‘land’
  • Make that fun: I like nothing more than to learn how my wife likes to be pleasured - how she uses her fingers and toys. I would rather be with her when she is self pleasuring than literally anything else in the world!
  • PIV: we have a position where I am PIV while my wife is using toys / fingers (or I’m using them) and I will squeeze her butt, massage her thighs, stroke her pussy - I just make small movements (I guess his is a kind of a tantra thing) but the feeling is amazing. Especially when I feel her contracting, shaking and coming. I get SO turned on but because there’s not lots of friction / thrusting - can last a very long time
  • Penis extender: try a 1" silicone extender - they’re fun! It’s a bit more ‘oomph’ for her, and the silicone cover will turn the dial down for you. I have the one I linked and it’s great!

Enjoy your adventures!

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Hi @supercloud7
I want to add something that I experienced helps a lot: Kegel exercises (Yes, even nowadays some people don’t know it is not only for women)
It works wonders and you will see results in a few days or weeks depending on how much you do it.
Several times per day, exercise your pelvic floor for a minute or so, first some quick movements, then a few long holdings. You will be able to control a lot more when to orgasm.
Mixing this with edging as @our-adventure-bed said can get you great results.
Google a bit about it if you don’t know how to do them, there are tons of good explanations

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Try a sleeve or thicker condom

I do think the more you think about it the worse it becomes.

The 2 suggestions above calm the intense feeling and hopefully will go away with time :slight_smile:

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I don’t have any advice to add but I am in the same boat.

Recently I feel like during PIV I am extra sensitive and orgasm much quicker than I used too. My partner has said that it’s nothing to worry about and I always make sure to see to her needs regardless but it does effect me and my ‘wants’ for great sex.

When it comes too edging I don’t have a problem, same with if my partner gives me oral (she probably wishes I’d be a little quicker) so I don’t really know how to get over this.

We did have a period where we didn’t have much PIV so I am wondering if it’s just the excitement or different feeling, hopefully it’s this and I can return to business as usual shortly :rofl:

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Thank you all for the great replies and advice!
I will definitely try some of these and hopefully they work

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We have a few toys but mainly for her enjoyment. (Vibrators/ rabbit vibrator)
Do you recommend anything that is good for a male to use as I want to be part of the fun too! Especially during foreplay. This could help too by practicing edging and stamina as you said.

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Hey @supercloud7

I think pretty much any toy can be used on a male. When we are playing around together, my wife will often take what ever toy it is and use it on me as well.

Wands, bullets - even the suction toys! They can all be played with in lots of fun ways - if you are smiling and feel good, then it’s working I reckon!

Wands and bullets are the most versatile - I always wander them up and down my wifes back, thighs and inner thighs before we get to ground zero! Equally they are good for the same places on a male body and a stroke up and down your penis!

Have fun :slight_smile:

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A vibrating cockring may help you last longer and get her there quicker. I would highly recommend

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Have you tried edging as that can help build up stamina to last longer or alternatively delay creams and sprays might be of use

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