Thanks, VR. I’m finding a few toys a bit tricky at the moment and I’ve just made the connection that I recently stopped taking Vagifem (hrt estrogen suppositories) so that might have caused some changes. Bloody menopause! Think I’ll start using them again to test my theory.
I feel your pain with the bloody menopause.
I'd definitely start with the Vagifem again unless you're having bad side effects. I lost a very dear friend to cervical cancer a few years ago. She was having radiotherapy but needed dilators to open her vagina. She lost her husband 50-odd years ago and hadn't masturbated or had sex since then so everything had closed up.
Using dilators was painful and distressing for her. She'd never liked sex with her husband so was relieved when he died and thought masturbating was 'dirty' so never tried it.
I think this is why I'm adamant that even if I never had sex again I'd keep mastubating as long as I can and why I bang on so much about the pros of sex toys and lube to my friends. A few are currently having problems with vaginal atrophy so are using lubes daily, HRT and being very careful during sex. A few have bought slimmer steel or glass dildos (I nag. A lot!) to use with bullets and have remarked that getting aroused regularly has helped even though menopause has caused their libido to crash and it's the last thing they want to do.
I hope you get some relief of your symptoms soon and find a vibe that helps.