Red flag for me is the fact that your wife is not keen. Would you really want her to do something she's against ?
I'd keep this as a fantasy xx
I could not agree with this more. Please don't try to encourage or persuade her to do this as it's clear she isn't keen on the idea. If she did it she'd probably be doing it just to please you, which could lead to resentment towards you on her part. I think a partner who's not invested in the play kills the fantasy too so I don't think you'd enjoy it if she wasn't. It's best to keep this as a fantasy. You can always recreate this scenario at home with sex toys 😀
I can see this going very very wrong and someone will get hurt. She's not keen on it so that should be a no go. This is something you must both be 100% on as it can destroy a relationship in an instant.
I can see this going very very wrong and someone will get hurt. She's not keen on it so that should be a no go. This is something you must both be 100% on as it can destroy a relationship in an instant.
Sorry but have to agree with the majority! Please don't do what's not 100% for you both! She doesn't sound convinced and taking part in this to satisfy you will completely destroy her! Chat and communicate with her and find out her true fantasies 👌 You might be surprised! If you value your relationship then my advice would be to not partake!
Never push her into anything. My wife and I have been swapping for years and never a problem. We love and trust each other, sometimes I'm there and watch other times she goes her own way. Every time she tells me what she has been up to which often leads to something!
Nothing to add but did just want to say you're definitely not a fruit loop!! I would love to watch my hubby with another woman but it's a big no from him so...no go. Shame. Just to let you know you're not on your own.x
Whilst I would be quite happy trying this with hubby (actually one of my fantasies) if she is not into the idea it's a big concern as it could let to feelings of guilt and being used so be careful and make sure you don't push her into it. Allow it to come naturally and if it doesn't you can always role play, get her to pretend she has done it and tell you or get her to use toys etc
I have a the same fantasy for my wife to sleep with another man but I know she wouldn't be up for the idea also I don't think I would after it had happened either, so I wouldn't won't to cause problems in the relationship. I think investing in a realistic dildo would be the answer to see if it helps with your fantasy. If your both not 100% up for it it could cause problems.
I couldn't think of anything worse tbh. Thought of some other bloke getting his dick in there. All sorts I suppose, and I know it is a pretty popular fantasy
Whilst I would be quite happy trying this with hubby (actually one of my fantasies) if she is not into the idea it's a big concern as it could let to feelings of guilt and being used so be careful and make sure you don't push her into it. Allow it to come naturally and if it doesn't you can always role play, get her to pretend she has done it and tell you or get her to use toys etc
I know this is an old comment but seriously how fecking dumb was it.
This is a 3 year old thread. The OP's lastest one, on the same topic, was closed down by Brenna, the forum moderator. Maybe we should respect that and hope that the OP has understood what a lot of posters are saying.
Out of interest what is it you actually find a turn-on? Is it the visual appeal of watching your OH with another man or is it something deeper that maybe you haven't yet riddled out? I once thought of what it would be like for my partner to be with another man. I have a really open sex life with my partner, we experiment quite a lot with new toys and such but we keep what we have between ourselves... my biggest turn-on is confidence, sometimes it's really hard to actually see your partner, even when you're a 'lights on' kind of guy. For me I found that taking a step back gave me perspective of what it was about that fantasy that I found appealing. I wanted to see her, not the other guy, so I asked her to do some solo nights for me, I'm a fortunate guy and she agreed. So I got out our box of goodies and asked her to handcuff me to a chair and she had her way with herself. It was really interesting to see how she pleases herself without my input (also a bit of a confidence boost when I noticed how she uses some of the things she expressed I taught her about herself though shear experimentation over the years we have been together). Another thing I wanted to know was how do I perform, I think we all think of this from time to time and whilst I believe the emotional attachment during lovemaking is massively important the visual is also just as much of an appeal. Again I wanted to see her but not from me looking down or up (depending on who is where)... for me a few strategically placed mirrors around the bed really helped. We looked good together, it was good to see how she reacts as she reaches peak and the small mannerisms I sometimes know by feel but can't actually see due to certain positions. Like how her feet turn inwards when we are in missionary, or how her toes clench, the way she grips me with her knees or holds me by the shoulders and such. I knew she did this but for me to acrually see it I would have to change my angle from the one that I know is what she likes and potentially distract her from achieving her pleasure... Using the mirrors allowed me to keep things the same but added a little extra to the event, it was like watching my own porno, except there where no actors and the intimacy I was witnessing was actually real and not staged. I'm not fussed on seeing my partner with another guy, to me that fantasy was just my curiosity to understand how her body responds from a different perspective. With toys, solo play and mirrors I was able to avoid any potential risks that can't be undone once done.
This is a 3 year old thread. The OP's lastest one, on the same topic, was closed down by Brenna, the forum moderator. Maybe we should respect that and hope that the OP has understood what a lot of posters are saying.
I wish I read this before I had my input... I'm new to this part of the site (palm of hand on forehead feeling a bit daft lol)
This is a 3 year old thread. The OP's lastest one, on the same topic, was closed down by Brenna, the forum moderator. Maybe we should respect that and hope that the OP has understood what a lot of posters are saying.
I wish I read this before I had my input... I'm new to this part of the site (palm of hand on forehead feeling a bit daft lol)
I was just sayin...
Anyone can post - you make a lot of good points which would be helpful to lots of people.