There are always circumstances and challenges like this, especially when you have children, so it’s easy to fall into the ‘now is not the right time’ mindset.
I have been on forums like this, previously, and been horrified that the default advice of some to people in a similar situation to you is ‘get out’ instead of ‘work at it’, but this time I am with them.
There are enough signs that he is controlling you, and whenever one half of a relationship feels they have to do things in secret, it’s a problem.
@Justthetwoofus2007 my son was just starting his A levels as we split. I understand your concerns but it was honestly the best thing for my Son too.
Our relationship is wonderful and he shares everything with me now.
Waiting for them to leave home etc is actually really damaging… they leave a family home and return to a single Mum… my councillor stressed this as a terrible tactics many parents have.
There’s always someone here if you need to vent, even in the early hours.
I was in Boot’s the chemist’s a few months ago, and they had a sign saying they would give discreet help and advice to women in similar situations to yourself. It might help to see what help and options you may have.
I realise how lonely and isolated you feel.
I have 1 friend, she had a baby few months ago, so don’t really see each other as our lives are travelling differently now.
If i do see her, its the 4 of us & the baby, so don’t get to chat much, i’ve also never really told her much, it’s always been me helping her.
I find it really hard to trust or confide with anyone. Not sure if it’s an adhd thing, the anxiety of going out, the overthinking, just to much sometimes.
