Light Bondage

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Hi there!
Looking to get into some light bondage. It’s always a desire of mine to be restrained which we do often but looking to take it a little further. Nothing too hardcore by any means but just wondered if anyone had any tips or ideas of where to start/where you started?

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I think a kit might be a good place to start - have a look at the selection here there’s lots of variation in what’s included in each kit so you’re bound to find something that catches your eye!

I found that I started off my collection by buying individual pieces as I went along, and it meant that I probably spent more in the long run and wouldn’t then buy a kit cause no matter how good it looked I always already had some of the stuff in there!
If I was starting over I think I’d buy a kit. If you don’t use it all right away it’s still value for money and you always have the extra items to try later if you like.

It’s also worth having a think about what colours, materials and features you want and whether you want things to match or not.

some things to consider
  • Whether it’s a buckle, velcro or other fastening you want
  • Whether items are universal (ie can cuffs be unclipped and attached to anything or are they permanently attached to each other)
  • Whether you want/need to be very comfy or don’t mind if they’re less luxe
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I would definitely agree with getting a kit. I bought a kit to start out with and it was a great way to begin to work out what I liked and what I didn’t. From there, I purchased upgrades of things I enjoyed from the kit.

One piece of advice I would give is to not try everything at once though. Trying out lots of new things all in one go can be a bit overwhelming so start by introducing 1 or 2 things at a time.

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Bondage tape is very versatile and affordable if you’re just looking to dip your toes in, you can use it to restrain your hands, ankles, etc in any way you like without any risks or complex rope-tying

I would also recommend you start with a kit, you’ll probably be able to get products at a discount, plus, it’s a good way to find out what you like

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You should probably discuss what you do and don’t like with your OH. Such as do you want to be restrained in comfort on your back on the bed or bent over the dining room table with your ankles tied to the wooden table legs? Having tried both of these on many occasions I can advise that you shouldn’t overlook the possibility of cramp or other aches and pains developing half way through.

We started with something as simple as a blindfold (one of those ones you get in a set with ear plugs to try to sleep on long haul flights) and then added a set of leather wrist cuffs and a vibrator. We both agreed that we didn’t trust metal handcuffs to not unlock when finished with!

Good luck on your journey.

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Asking this forum is a great starting point! :+1::slightly_smiling_face:
There are plenty of good folk on here with experiences of submission and restraint.
For the best advice, perhaps you might feel happy to share a bit more detail about what you like specifically? It’s a broad topic!

There’s also useful advice on Lovehoney’s Bondage & BDSM Guides

Maybe you could start by asking yourself a few questions to work out how you ideally want to be restrained. The most important ingredients are your own preferences, and your physical limits. Don’t worry if these aren’t immediately obvious. Trying things out in a safe setting can show limitations as well as spark ideas! Some things that look simple actually feel really hot, while some things look great in a photo or video, but are actually brutally hard or don’t feel great in real life, so it’s good to remember we all start from somewhere, and we’re all constantly learning.

Do you prefer the idea of being comfortable? If you want to be restrained for a long time in one position, this can be so important!
If lying down, would you prefer to be face up, or face down? Do you prefer your arms restrained together or apart? Above your head, in front, or behind you?

Another aspect is whether you want to be restrained quickly or slowly. The act of being tied up with rope, as a simple wrist binding is different from a more complex rope body harness tie, which can be a much longer process. This can be extended foreplay, while giving tying points on the body.

As to the kit;

I personally love rope as it’s super versatile for tying a person up in different positions, to all sorts of things, on it’s own or in combination with cuffs, spreaders, furniture, and so on.

Spreader bars are an excellent tool I’d recommend for many, many positions, while under-the-bed restraint kits are ideal if you want to be restrained lying down.

Donning a collar or leather cuffs is a great way for getting into the right headspace, as well as giving fixed restraining points on the body.

Starting out with rope bondage, I found this book really helpful: Two Knotty Boys- Showing You The Ropes
It’s got some basic knots, essential safety advice, and introduces some examples of harnesses and other more complex pieces.

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Unfortunately I think that guide section has some missing pages, but I rebulit an index for a different project that you might find useful. :+1:

Guide Index (Chimp Edit)

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Thanks @Ian_Chimp! :+1::kissing_heart:

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Thanks everyone!

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Welcome @MrsHolmes

First tip is to talk about what you want to your other half (OH) and be as clear as possible.

For restraints, I really like the wrist restraints but you’ll probably be better starting with the simple handcuffs. Make sure you have the quick release ones in case you want or need to stop quickly.

Have fun and let us know how it goes :+1:

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I agree with the comments and suggestions above, just thought that linking to some specific items might help you get a better idea :slight_smile:
They’re all listed in the Bondage section.

Kits

Cuffs

Restraints/ positioning

Have fun! :slight_smile:

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We use a blindfold along with the under bed restraints or the wrist to thigh restraints both with velcro fastenings. very comfortable and a nice introduction to light bondage.