Hi everyone!.
So, my wife is struggling for sexual confidence post having our first child. We are both 40 and not had as much time as we’d like to stay in shape, but also time for each other, as you can imagine with a baby ( 18 months now)
What lingerie or bed time clothes do you think would make my wife feel more confident in herself but also be a nice gift?
Hi I would ask her whether some new lingerie would help her feel more confident. I would maybe suggest something that covered the tummy like higher cut knickers or a wide suspender belt or a basque with suspenders (these are usually detachable) I’ve not had a look at lingerie on LH for a while so not sure what they have in. You can also get nightdresses with a built in bra that are sexy whilst not being obviously “bedroom” wear if you know what I mean. A nice satin chemise is good too without being too obvious.
Thankyou for a really good response.
Yes, baby dolls are perfect i think. She has liked them in the past and also provide a bedtime look but also gives a bit of tummy coverage.
Shes perfect as she is but appreicate the lack of confidence since little one came along and want to get her something that makes her feel sexy but also know i still find her sexy
What sort of things does she enjoy wearing?
It could be more of a case to simply keep complimenting her on all her beautiful parts to help boost her confidence again
Make her feel like a queen.
Shower her in compliments.
Tell her (with regularity and sincerity) how much you love her and how sexy she makes you feel.
Tell her how proud you are of her delivering your beautiful baby.
Pamper her. Treat her to a hair-do / beauty salon / spa day.
Book a hotel for the night for just the two of you - if you are able to find suitable child-care arrangements. A well known hotel group (Leonardo Hotels) is currently offering one night stays complete with a full English breakfast and complimentary bottle of Prosecco all for £75.
Buy her some sexy lingerie / night wear.
The list is endless, but I guess that you will need to be genuine in your compliments and in your attempt to make her feel beautiful and wanted during what appears to be the “baby blues” she is currently experiencing.
A body which covers the tummy (assuming that’s the problem area) but leaves other bits tantalisingly exposed might work well.
You can get them with suspenders attached too if that’s to your taste
Hi Congratulations on the child, I would recommend you and wife take time out together to look through the LH site and between you pick lingerie that you both feel comfortable with. May be a chemise would be good to give some coverage around stomach.
I loved this type whilst pregnant and also post baby arrival
Great question and love the thought behind it.
Direct answer is probably pretty dependent on your wife’s insecurities and confident areas to hide or emphasize. Definitely could give recommendations if we knew a little more there.
Indirect answer includes being sure to support her having time to do things that make her feel good about herself, space to be more than “just” a mom, breaks from caring for others to free her mind to have even space for sexual thoughts and desires.
Just my two cents.
My caution would be that she might not feel like she will be attractive in lingerie. My OH wears it for me not for her and I can tell it is not really her thing.
My thoughts would be to make her feel great with compliments, give her a massage. Take her and have her nails done. Give her some time without the baby. Make meals. Do more cleaning. When you take away some of the stress of being a mom she will feel more interested in you. Get back to dating. Like others have said spoil her.
Guessing can backfire. Most times an honest conversation is best. Hey I would like to get you something sexy to wear, what do you think? If that is not what she wants then say ok I want to surprise you with something, so give me some hints.
Tell her she is still beautiful and how much you love her.
Good luck!
As a starter Baby dolls are perfect, holds your boobs in place and then hang down over your tummy.
Then If she wants to be a bit more edgy- crotchless bodysuit or body stocking- these are great as they stay in place throughout but still give easy access to her pussy.
Both make me feel much more confident and extra sexy 
I don’t find lingerie sexy at all. I don’t know why that is. It actually turns me off.
Lovely comment. And I think we all should still have date nights no matter how long we have been with our partner, it keeps the romance in a relationship I think. 
I think it’s lovely that you’re thinking and caring about your wife’s self confidence. 
I agree with those members who advise caution. When I wasn’t happy with my figure every piece of lingerie I tried on felt horrible. I would pick up on every unsatisfactory lump and bump.
Without quizzing her you need to have an idea which parts of herself she loves and which she is uncomfortable with. You don’t want to choose something that emphasizes the problem areas. E.g she may love her boobs at the moment but want something that supports and enhances them, rather than have them hanging free.
Or perhaps she is uncomfortable with her waist so something that either covers it, or tailors it, not something like a suspender belt which can emphasis the shape.
I went through many years post baby hating my body and sexy lingerie felt anything but on me. My H wasn’t able to understand that what he thought I’d look sexy in, often wasn’t what I’d feel sexy in. You’re off to a good start with taking time to think about what would make her feel amazing again. x