So my wife and I have been together since school (I was 17 she was 16 now 43 and 42) so shared EVERYTHING in life together.
Next weekend we have a rare night away in the form of a lovely spa break we received as a Christmas gift - can’t wait! I have also upgraded our room to a suite so roll top bath, walk-in rainfall shower the works.
We have super busy lives her work is all consuming and I work full time too plus we have a wonderful daughter (14) so don’t get a lot of time to ourselves.
I have suggested that to make the most of our time away we each need to list 3 things we want to do/try/experiment with - could be anything.
Something I am keen to put on my list is role playing meeting for the first time, so for her to go down to the bar and start drinking alone and then I will go down separately and act like (horny) strangers meeting for the first time.
As much as I am keen to try this I am also not the most confident and don’t want to feel stupid or embarrassed. Clearly the plan is to then enjoy a nice dinner together before returning to the room.
Has anyone played this out, got any tips for smoothing it out and overcoming the natural embarrassment/nerves?
Just try it and have fun together, if it starts off as being strangers but then morphs back to a normal conversation then that’s fine. It’s been something I’ve tried in the past with varying success, as both parties aren’t always on the same page. Also are you going to be yourselves or will you create characters if you do just remember it’s fun and fantasy they are not trying to substitute you for the fictional which I’ve seen go south quickly.
Thanks I am sure it will be much easier than it seems in my head right now?!? I think we will be ourselves but almost starting from scratch (as in we don’t know anything about each other) but will relay the actual details aside from marriage and child obviously.
But work life, friends, interests, hobbies etc will all be actual rather than fictional.
@Ralph007 … Go for it… Mr W and I have done this a number of times and it has always been a great success … you may wish to start without any script at all, or perhaps like we did - agree some basic outlines first so that we both knew the start of the fictitious story first - who we are, how did we get here … but then let it flow its own way. One thing you do risk is - as I explained to Mr W - be careful another male who is attractive to your wife doesn’t get to your wife before you arrive on the scene … enjoy yourselves xx
Indeed - this is something I was playing over in my mind but figured if someone does arrive first then she can say she is waiting for her husband or if she feels like it entertain his advances knowing I am inbound!
I am quite excited about the whole prospect, we haven’t really mixed things up for a long time, I am interested to see what her 3 things are - event that will be a real nice learning experience.
Consumed with life we rarely chat about what makes us tick, what presses our buttons - having been together so long I guess there is an element of complacency which is wrong really.
We have a spa day on the Fri with full body massages in the afternoon before we can check into room so should be feeling pretty relaxed. Then shower (each other!) before dinner and see what happens from there on in. I have bought some tasteful lingerie for her which I think she will love and wear under her dress to dinner - this will drive me wild knowing she is wearing it I am a big pudding fan but might skip it just this once!
We have late checkout on Sat too so plenty of time to generate an appetite for breakfast.
I am a big pudding fan but might skip it just this once!