@KylieB Get rid of him and move on. This is coming from a guy who is very lonely is saying something. I wouldn’t put up with it! Any successful relationship is built on communication and if he doesn’t want to discuss how to improve it in his view then how are you expected to know. Being blunt is one thing (which is fine as I am too) but that is disrespectful. He’s probably seen things in Porn Clips he wanted to do but as I said if he doesn’t discuss this how would you know?
Also its not just his enjoyment satisfaction that matters here, yours does too! You tell him things he does that doesn’t do it for you in the same manner and see how he likes it!
As much as I support the sentiment, tit for tat doesn’t usually end well with disrespectful types – you’re “disrespecting” them and just giving them all the more “justification” to cheat on/dump you. No matter how much you want them to hurt, you only end up hurting yourself.
Much better just to say “I don’t want to be with someone who won’t show me the respect that I deserve” and walk away completely. No arguments. No games.
The way I see it, if a guy finds a woman who actually wants to have sex with him, he should thank his lucky stars, shower her with love and treat her with the utmost respect. Call me old-fashioned …
Welcome to the forum and I’m so sorry to read of your experience, what a real shit thing for your boyfriend to say to you… I’d have been in two minds of rebelling and saying he wasn’t that great either and perhaps if he was better then you’d have given him the full pleasure
but on a side note, if he’s able to be blunt like this and belittle your esteem carelessly, then does he even care for you the way a partner should?!
Id maybe take time to think what you want from this relationship and if you could see it lasting long term as trust me it isn’t worth it to put up with a guy while he gradually wares you down and damages your confidence for finding someone so much better
