@steve19 that sounds like quite a combination of things all conspiring against you both. Menopause can go on for a hell of a lot longer than people think it will. For some women(not all )the longer they go without sex the less they need it, maybe that’s also true for men but I’m just talking from my own personal experience. It’s a kind of ‘use it or lose it’ situation and getting back in the saddle can be difficult.
Yes, it must be difficult for your wife to swap between carer and lover but equally difficult for you with health issues that impact on you sexually. And of course it can be so hard to break from any feelings that stem from early years of being told that sex is wrong, not be enjoyed etc, that can come from a very strict upbringing.
Oh, I’d love to have that magical answer to all this too!
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