Try again. We want to know what’s good about you. You wouldn’t be on a forum like this if you weren’t open-minded and willing to bring about change. That’s something to be proud of already, if you will allow yourself to accept it.
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I genuinely care about people, respect everybody (as long as they have respect too), and I have maintained a child-like enthusiasm for simple pleasures. In terms of this forum: I love getting naked and (almost) anything sexual, and I am proud that I have totally overcome the social conditioning that tells us those are things we should be ashamed of.
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This is enough to tell us you are intelligent, caring and thoughtful, and therefore a nice person. Whatever (probably imagined) faults you might have, that more than cancels them out.
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Oh, aren’t you kind. 
I can only hope others agree with you??? I’m happy to just help others think more positively about themself. 
How did I miss this thread? Dear me 
it’s a great topic.
Truthfully, I never used to think very highly of myself. I was “just me” - I guess I didn’t allow myself to be more than “just me” because I was never allowed to have an ego. I was just me, and sadly, that’s all I ever wanted anyone to see me as. Then I met a man, unfortunately not a great man, would bully me into seeing how amazing I am. He believed/believes in tough love, and I don’t believe it works.
Except it did, and I realised that the love I was giving to him (and my mother, who can also be rather difficult sometimes), I should be giving to myself. I don’t deserve their criticisms of me; I work hard enough. I don’t deserve their judgements of me; I am fine, just the way I am. I realised all too soon that while I was busy loving people who didn’t love me for me, there were others out there who were practically worshipping the ground I walk on.
So now I see all that I am, I’m unapologetically me, and unapologetic for loving me. I’m amazing, kind, funny, intelligent, a great writer, a great cook, a great entertainer, a positive person and a great and supportive friend to have. I love me, even if nobody else does 
Oh, and not to brag, but I didn’t even stay monogamous 24 hours. Whilst my poly ex was busy breaking my heart, a close male friend of mine - who I didn’t even realise was attracted to me - was waiting in the wings to snatch me up.
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I bounce 
Ive had some pretty awful times in my life and somehow always seem to bounce back stronger but not hardened.
I love that about me!!
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Thanks @Tenshadesandme for taking the time and being comfortable to share! You sound so inspirational!
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@The_Little_Ladybird i love your resilience!
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I’m a natural leader, but I believe in leading by example. In front, rather than behind 
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Oh I agree! I don’t like to be in the tail 
… unless its mine
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Ok , I’ll try to be positive.
I like the fact that I’ve changed from what I was around 25 years ago.
I used to be that “creepy” bloke , who thought it was highly amusing to say smutty and suggestive things to women at work . I cringe when I look back on it now .
One woman reported it , but didn’t want any formal action taken . I was taken into the office , and given a much deserved "dressing down " by the boss .
That woman did me a huge favour. I changed from that moment, and now have a reputation as a “nice fella” and a "gentlemen " . I actually seem to be quite popular with the female members of staff . A couple of them even insist on hug when they see me !
Tho I’ve changed , and no one remembers my disgusting past , I still feel great shame over it .
I hate mirrors, because I cant bear to look in them .
It is no more than I deserve.
The only thing I like about myself , is that I’ve changed
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The obvious answer is to tell you to stop feeling shame over a misjudgement when you were younger, and put it behind you, but somehow I don’t think it’s that easy for you.
All I can say is: as a ‘gentleman’ and a ‘nice fella’, you absolutely DO deserve much better, and if I could shake your hand, I would.
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Many years ago it used to be my physical fitness due to a very physical job. As I posted in another thread a while back, I still have the 6 pack abs but now they are packed in a foam travel case.
At this point in my life I would have to say my self confidence. I don’t mean that in a cocky way so let me explain. Used to be in my very early 20’s I wouldn’t use a store change room because someone “might see”, I wouldn’t go to a social event where I didn’t know anyone, and trying to give a public address of any type would make my legs quiver. Fast forward several decades and now I am completely comfortable being naked at the beach, a resort, lifestyles club, or the backyard. I can waltz into a social event solo not knowing anyone and still have a good time. I could be far more polished at public speaking but it doesn’t bother me to actually do anymore given I make several addresses a year.
Before you ask… not really sure how that transformation happened. Presumably from just working through the experiences.
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Thank you . That’s really appreciated
Similar to me . In my case , it’s getting older and not giving a hoot .
I’ve got a bit of a belly and bald . I don’t care now . My attitude is “this is me , take it or leave it” .
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What great responses!
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@Natalie im absolutely 100% sure you are all of the above. So what ever you are doing keep doing it and never change. 
Sexually I would say I’m a giver. I love to please and give pleasure.
Normal stuff… I think I might be decently handsome. I’m a quick learner. I’m dedicated. I’ll always try to get everyone to smile if I can.
This was a difficult question!
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@craigy75 aww! Aren’t you sweet!
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I’m sure the front is where all the action is!
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