I haven’t had sex in 18months with partner, ive spoken about this in another post, i have however taken care of businesses when its been a while, sometimes as when i crave to, other times just to pass time its got that bad. However i dont feel i have the desire as much as i use to, i am on the pill for menstrual rather than contraception. I think it has effected my libido massively. Has anyone been in similar situation and have done something or used something that can help. I dont have the option to come off the pill unfortunately.
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Hey! A lot of people go through stages of a low libido, it can be so many factors.
my partner was hugely affected by the pill, her mood swings become awful and she had no interest at all being intimate. Since coming off the pill and moving to natural contraception it’s been way better for everyone. But she was also under a lot of pressure and stress from work and we had quite a lot of life changes happen. So it could have been multiple things.
Maybe look into other reasons if you want to stay on the pill, it could simply be a dry spell, or maybe you have a lot of stress between you built up and you may need to light the fires with an escape somewhere or a few dinner dates etc.
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I go through the same thing sometimes. I have discovered that treating myself to toys, and actually using them frequently has helped a lot.
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Fully appreciate you need to stay on the pill, but have you spoken to your doctor about an alternative pill? When I was the pill, one had horrendous effects on me, I switched to another one and that was more suited to my body.
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I’d definitely say the pill could be the main issue behind this drop in libido. Have you spoken to the nurse about this side effect?
Those suggesting to speak to doctors I have done so but have been dismissed, they keep tryinG for me to go for the coil however I had previously surgically removed.
I’m going in circles, I’m Thinking of possibly a women version of viagra? Is that a thing?
I’m really glad I’ve come across this because I literally have no desire to have sex with my husband. I’m exhausted! My head hits the pillow and boom I’m gone! Can’t be woken until my alarm goes off.
My medication doesn’t help my libido (if I’ve spelt correctly) I’m epileptic so that don’t help but that has to be taken regardless. But my neurologist can help with that I hope.
But I still take the pill and he has had the chop. I’ve tried eating gummy’s etc to try and get some boost if ya like but literally nothing is helping I feel stuck!!
but also don’t help that I don’t feel great appearance wise because Iv lost weight so my boobs and everything have fallen! So yeah 
Could you try a pharmacy? I get my contraception directly from my pharmacist now. If you do some research on which pill you might like to try then you might be able to get it directly from the pharmacy if they feel it is suitable (safe) for you. There are also family planning/ sexual health clinics that you could try too.
Mine kept pushing for the same thing, it’s not an option I would (or could) consider, and they just don’t seem to understand why I would not be willing to try it. Feels like they have some kind of target to reach
There are ‘pink pills’ but I don’t know what they are and I’ve never tried them. I’ve heard that they don’t really work, it’s likely just a placebo effect, but there will be other people who swear by them. As long as they are safe for you to take, it wouldn’t hurt to try.
The only things I’ve found helpful for giving me a small boost in libido are trying to get a dopamine ‘hit’ through doing regular workouts, doing something I really enjoy with my husband (a bit of romance helps!) and the more obvious reading erotic stories / watching porn (which I’ve given up for now). I also find that the more sex / masturbation I have, the more I want, so making an effort to masturbate more is worth a try!
So you are paying attention to the fact you are not horny, and fixing it partly by using your toys, how brilliant.
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Yes, my husband is really supportive of me using toys and it has helped a lot for me to relax and try new things and enjoy myself. I was surprised at how much it helped my drive.
It is said having sex brings about desire for more, so what you are doing is feeding that system, makes perfect sense. Glad you are both getting value from it.
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I’m kind of in the same boat but the reverse. My wife is on meds which reduces her sex drive plus being on the older side of 60 plus again PIV causes vaginal pain and she’s not in to anal as well as she’s often tired. So I’ve tried to spice/change things up with cross dressing and having her peg me thinking this might lead to some renewed interest. She was ok but not supportive of the dressing so kinda gave that up tho I do enjoy it and she will peg me but again no real enthusiasm
so I take what I get when I can get it and other times it’s up to me to take care of myself. It could easily be a sexless marriage if left up to her. she used to be quite keen years back but not now. So my question is what does or can your husband do to try to help with this. My wife has some depression which plays into this. Could that be a part of your lack of interest. As far as body self image remember you are exactly as God made you and if you’re attractive to your husband then take what you can from that.