Hi, for years i would jerk of in the shower in the morning, i have recently started to masturbate in bed while wife sleeps or just awake. i asked her if she was ok with it and she said yes. she is surprised how often i do it but hasn’t complained. Do woman mind if their partner jerks off in bed next to them or would they prefer their partner do it in private? also do other men do this?
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I done it a few weeks back looking at porn and it was a nice strange. I felt like I was with another woman beside her as weird as it sounds.
I want to try it again soon, but I might see if she will use her hand.
But in general my wife has no problem with me getting off. She knows I do.
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OH doesn’t need to wank, he get two daily BJ’s
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I would be fine with it if my husband did it and I would probably join in.
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Haha! I’d get giggles 
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I Often wake up before the OH and if horny I’ll start to masturbate to our homemade movies, sometimes she sleeps thru and other times she will whisper in my ear I want to see you cum. Or when ur ready cum on my pussy 
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Mrs Balls is ok with me wanking anywhere, anytime ,she openly encourages it, as I then last longer when love making.
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I think each person is different. But for me, I would be annoyed because I would much rather he have sex with me or ask me to do it for him. (There is not enough sexual activity in our relationship at the moment though)
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I do it sometimes. My wife’s ok-ness with it varies - sometimes she’s totally fine with it but other times she gets a bit uncomfortable. Similar to one of the comments above she says it sometimes feels like I’m with someone else. I think that’s also because my preferred way of masturbating is putting a stroker down on a pillow and fucking it in missionary.
When she’s going through periods of being uncomfortable with it, I respect that and stick to masturbating in the shower and then I might do it in bed again once to test the waters and see where she’s at. I definitely maintain open communication though as I don’t want her to build up any resentment
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I think i would feel like your wife. I would be like what the hell i am right here and you choose to do it yourself rather than ask me to do it. So yeah i would be annoyed.
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It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest but I don’t think he would ever manage to do it because I’d take over! He also prefers to play with me and doesn’t see the need to do it himself.
The only time it would bother me is if I was ill or exhausted and he was keeping me awake, but I can sleep through most things!
I often masturbate next to him in bed if I’m in the mood and he’s already asleep and he’s ok with that. If he’s awake then he will help me out.
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My Mrs has said before she’d be cool with this… and if it ever happened and she woke she’d ‘help out’ but I’m not so sure it’d play out that well. She can be a grouch when she’s sleepy and currently we are trying out abit of the chastity lifestyle so it’s off the cards for me anyhow
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That’s understandable. For context - if my wife is willing and keen, being intimate with her is always my first choice/preference.
The nights I’ll opt to masturbate are usually nights where she’s already said/shown that she’s low on energy or sex drive.
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American Beauty vibes
To be honest, it is my job, as wife, to keep his balls drained as necessary. If he needs his balls drained and I’m there, I expect him to use me to drain them, even if it means waking me up. There is absolutely no need for him to masturbate himself (and happily for me, he prefers others to do it anyway).
Like @user2074, @Kinkywifey91 and @Wood-Nymph, I’d be a tad annoyed or possibly upset that I wasn’t used like that. The place for his cum is inside me. He’s got three choices…
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That is fair, your husband is a lucky man but in reality most men need to cum more than woman, i would hate that my wife felt like she had to be available for my needs 100% of the time. i love that she would prefer that i jerk off next to her rather than in then shower.
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My wife thinks the same. She will roll over and let me use her body and other times her hand.
But sometimes she is out of action and I am horny. The other night we made nice homemade clips for when she is not in action. But she is a sub so she let’s me do what I want.
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Listen @MattJames, I was talking about me. Yes, I love it too that she would prefer you jerking off next to her than away from her.
As for “hate that my wife felt like she had to be available for my needs 100% of the time”, I want to be. I thought long and hard about this being a wife malarkey before we got engaged, and I decided beforehand the rules I would wife by. And being available for him 24/7 was what I decided. Yes, it’s subby in a way, but it’s the kind of wife I wanted to be. It’s the kind of wife I think he deserved. I didn’t want to cause him stress and calamity, I wanted to be that good wife, that calming influence, that stress reliever, and yet, I want to be bad enough to thoroughly deserve all those spankings I keep getting!
@Messysex Yes, that’s me. He just moves my body as he wants and does what he wants. He’s kind and loving and the most unselfish man I’ve ever known. So no complaints from me. I try to be out of action for as little as possible.
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It pleases me for my hubby to masturbate in bed beside me, as he normally wakes up horny and im not always in the mood or turned on plus if hes ejectulates hes normally in a good mood all day lol
I do sometimes get turned on watching him so we end up with a mutual session
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On seeing this topic I felt I had a contribution to make (err is that a pun ?) but it has gone a bit argumentative and divisive, so will perhaps leave it.
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