Hi
New to LH having made my first purchase of a remote vibrator. As masturbation is now a mainstream activity I was wondering if there are any UK based clubs or societies where we can discuss our hobby and share experiences etc.
If not then is there an opportunity to start one?
Thanks
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Hello and welcome. 🙂
As you can imagine, we talk about masturbation a lot on here. 🙂 If there's any questions you have, or experiences you want to share, then pull up a thread and join in. As long as you're not unnecessarily graphic you can talk about pretty much anything. 👍 Due to the forum rules we can't share any personal contact information on here, so facilitating a club using the forums would be a big no-no, however there may be other sites people could point you to?
Here's the Forum Rules and the Welcome Thread so you can have a quick read through. 👍
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/help/forum-rules/
Enjoy. 🙂
I don't know if masturbation is as mainstream as you say but it does seem to be more and more accepted as time goes on. Maybe it's just the people in my work place, but they still seem pretty uptight about masturbation (especially female masturbation) and these are young and older ladies. But they will happily talk about partner sex until the cows come home, lol.
One of them asked if it was "normal" for a woman to have a bullet. I told her it was very normal and I have a drawer full of toys. She was pretty surprised and exclaimed "But you have a boyfriend!" like that's all I needed. Hopefully, my nonchalant responses helped with "normalising" a normal thing, lol. I think the more we talk about it, the more people will realise it is fine and healthy to masturbate. It's not a nasty or dirty thing. It's the safest sex you can have, haha.
That's why I like this forum. We can talk about sex/masturbation and no one will judge. We talk about what worked and what didn't work for you and it helps other people with their sex lives.
I don't think there are any clubs that I know of but this forum is very helpful.
Thanks for your comments HunnyMonster. I hear masturbation mentioned more and more on TV and in the press: - sometimes seriously and more often using the common or vulgar euphemistic terms.
It appeared to me, at least, that female masturbation and their use of toys was widely accepted as normal - but your experiences suggest we're not quite there yet.
Male masturbation is perhaps more common but also less talked about - and there is much work to do!!
A venue where this topic can be openly discussed etc would be a great start.
some interesting comments made by seniorstarbuck as a women who uses toys and fingers I woukd be interested ad what others do
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I think masturbation isn't as obvious to some people as it is to others. Whether it's generational, cultural, or simply something that's overlooked until later in life, people can discover self-love at different stages and for different reasons. And even if you do figure it out on your own it's also possible to create a masturbation technique early on that makes other ways of doing it much more difficult (thigh rubbing, prone position, death grip, for example). I think there's a lot to be said for having a safe space to discuss these things openly and in a non-judgemental way so everyone can benefit from pooling their insights and problems (which is what makes this forum so special 🙂👍).
I could never have any of the conversations I read on this forum with friends I know as they are quite reserved. With Masturbation my OH encourages me to do it and has bought me many toys for me to use when he's not about. And I have returned the favour by buying him toys too. He actually wants me to mastubate when he's not around so I can satisfy my needs.
I find that being able to discuss masturbation with others is very liberating and always they too feel the same. It's an amazing experience from which the shame is disappearing. I certainly have not just discovered it but the internet has allowed me to discover many others who enjoy self pleasure and like to share their thoughts.
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I think masturbation isn't as obvious to some people as it is to others. Whether it's generational, cultural, or simply something that's overlooked until later in life, people can discover self-love at different stages and for different reasons. And even if you do figure it out on your own it's also possible to create a masturbation technique early on that makes other ways of doing it much more difficult (thigh rubbing, prone position, death grip, for example). I think there's a lot to be said for having a safe space to discuss these things openly and in a non-judgemental way so everyone can benefit from pooling their insights and problems (which is what makes this forum so special 🙂👍).
I get it , i fully understand some people have nobody to talk too about these subjects in person without being judged kr feeling judged , i was just referring too the title "masturbation club"
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I get it , i fully understand some people have nobody to talk too about these subjects in person without being judged kr feeling judged , i was just referring too the title "masturbation club"
I think I'd call mine, 'The Rubbers and Tuggers'. 🙂
@SeniorStr8uk - I agree, we still have a bit to go. To be honest, I think some of the girls in my work place are curious about toys but are too shy or embarrassed to make a purchase or they are just making excuses not to, lol.
For example, one said she couldn't go to a sex shop as it would be too embarrassing. But when I pointed out you can just buy things online discreetly, she made a big deal out of the postman knowing what's in the box like he has x-ray vision or something, lol. So what if he does know, anyway? Who cares?
@Ian Chimp - I'd call mine the "Rub Club".
In the UK sex is still some what some thing you do behind closed doors and should not be discussed openly. You could argue that TV programmes and films are now quite graphic regarding sex and nudeness which is true they are, however overall it is seen as some thing not to be openly talked about. When compared to parts of Europe sex shops and sex toys are something you talk about with a partner, or if single you keep it quiet.
Amsterdam for example, the subject of sex and sex toys is "So Seventies" As with Denmark, Germany etc. I can not envisage walking past a chocolate shop here and seeing chocolate shaped in the form of a penis, where as in Denmark I have done.
I think that relates to how we have percieved sex over the years, it eneded up being-Outside of the bedroom- sordid and tacky, a place where "dirty old men" went to get some form of gratification, Soho for example. Some of you may well not recall how that place was many moons ago. "Got some under the counter mags if youre interested" Type thing.
The UK has changed it's attitude towards sex a great deal over the year's, I do think companies like LH-No I do not work for them-Have helped that change. For example here we are talking about masturbation, albeit in an annonymous form, but it is a change, a change that takes sex away from being seen as seedy and tacky.
A group of friends of mine, male and female, went to Amsterdam. We all went to a live sex show, there was a man and a women both naked on stage and they had sex. The way they had sex? it could not have been less tacky than if some guy had of been walking around in a full on spacesuit saying look at my willy! They had sex, but they did it in a dance form, music played they had sex in a choregraphed fashion. It was to say the least enternaining.
Now that all said and in answer to the OP question, yes there are groups that will meet and masturbate together, but they are mainly swingers not just entuasts of masturbation. You can go to places and masturbate, but it will be you and, well, just men watching, all very well if you like that sort of thing. As to a group of like minded people as you mentioned, extremely rare. Rare as in there is a mixture of people dicussing such a topic.
Bringing us back to LH, is it so nice to come to a forum and be able to talk about such topics in a way that you ladies, will not get harrassed to watch a cam, sent rude pics ect. Whereby a conversation can be kept "Normal" If that word even exists :)
Apologise for the long post to your question.
Masturbating a partner or self is a private matter for me. Friends and I do share our views openly but never in a situation. Like some said, you probably find them common in swing clubs and orgies parties. For me, dildos formed the largest part of masturbation (again in private only) and so far LH has the best ranges.
@DanceswithPenguins - I agree, the UK does still seem pretty uptight about sex and masturbation even in this day and age. The feeling I get from people is that they think masturbation/toys are a substitute for "real sex", so only people who can't get the real thing will do that. Sex with yourself or with a partner is still sex. It's not a substitute, it's just different.
I visited Amsterdam recently and got to see the red light district and their sex museum. Things like that aren't hidden out of sight, they are just there with other shops and attractions. Why hide it? You could see the toys in the windows; they are bright and welcoming. But the ones in my city are hidden away and shady; windows are blacked out, they are down lonely little roads...how appealing.
I've used other sites, but LH is a great example of a sex toy site done right. There's nothing seedy about it and the customer service is excellent. To me, it just feels like a proper shop. But instead of buying shoes or books, I buy sex toys.
This is great to read, an open chat about masturbating. As me and the OH have sexdrives at the opposite end of the scale I often find myself needing the release that builds up. She is fully aware of my needs and is happy for me to do it however the problem lies with me. I dont get the same satisfaction when playing alone as I do with sex and I find myslef needing it again pretty soon after. On occasions the OH has helped with pics or dirty texts which is a lot better but some some reason sneaking off and flying solo doesnt mentally or emotionally satisfy me. So, my point is an open chat forum for ideas and tips would be great.