This may have been asked prior so apologies if it has, or it may be a slight different angle, one that intrigues me
Do you tend to masturbate more or less in and out of a relationship? Or is it similar. In a relationship is it because generally you’re in a sexual relationship you’re really enjoying, or if you’re not fully getting what you need?
I know not everyone is the same, but is it generally simply because you’re horny or is there stress relief or the need to relax etc
If sex is there, but you masturbate, what could be the reasons for that
I don’t think it’s one or the other. Sex, in my view, is totally different to masturbating, as different as mutual masturbation is to solo masturbation.
It’s like comparing watching a film at home with your partner vs a film at the cinema alone - sure, on the surface if it the activity is the same, but the experience is different.
I think that the variety and stimulus also keeps the other interesting, and so long as my solo activities don’t affect our sex life or her overall secual satisfaction then I’ll continue to masturbate whilst in our marriage.
The only real caveat I’ll give to this is that sex should (almost) always be the first thing on the table, as most problems I feel I’ve seen tend to be when masturbating is the priority at the expense of sex/the partner’s satisfaction.
I have been married for 14 years we have amazing sex often so don’t really feel the need to masturbate.
In my last relationship we had a very limited sex life due to my girlfriend being very ill. When we had sex it was great but not very often. So I felt I needed to masturbate more as I have a high sex drive I would often think of her or find porn with a curvy body that looked like her. I found a porn star called Curvy Quinn that looked very much like her.
I think is fine in a relationship. There maybe times when the OH is not up for it or vice versa. Mutual masturbation is something my OH and I really enjoy.
Stating the obvious but everyone is different and every situation is different.
I masturbate way more than my husband as I have the time. My work hours tend to be condensed so I have more ‘days off.’ There’s only so much housework, gym, swim, shop etc I can do. It’s a fun activity to pass time, and I rather enjoy it.
It is in no way reflective on whether I’m getting enough from H.
I tend to masturbate at least once a day, usually before I go to sleep, regardless of whether or not I’ve had sex that day. I feel like sex and masturbation are quite different for me, I feel like sex is about the connection with another person whereas masturbation is more about focusing purely on pleasure
I’ve been in a relationship since I was 18 so I can’t say much about masturbation outside of a relationship but in my relationship I find that I masturbate more when I am getting more sex and masturbate less when I am getting less sex which sounds a bit backwards but apparently isn’t unusual. I think this is because, when I am having more sex, I am more relaxed, happy and in the mood to masturbate but when I am not having sex I am more stressed and tired (either as a result of not having sex or because I’m stressed from work) so I’m not in the mood. Masturbation doesn’t replace sex, if I’ve orgasmed from solo play I will still be just as interested (or more so) in sex afterwards.
Very active we are so masturbation is something I consider if we are apart,not often.I feel like Im cheating on OH as she really enjoys maximum load.I prefer the intense orgasm and biggest load possible.
I often masturbate even when OH is at home she doesn’t like me doing it and went mental last time she caught me but it’s a release that I need sometimes
It’s a long time since I’ve not been in a relationship so can only answer from the perspective of being in a relationship.
There are times when we are having sex a lot when I still masturbate - when I’m having a lot of sex I feel more horny so just want more satisfaction more often, either with sex or masturbation.
There are times when I’m feeling more horny than my husband - he might have a lot going on at work, for example - and I will masturbate as an alternative to sex. He does the same if I have a lot going on.
Then there is masturbation during sex where one or both of us masturbate while the other watches.
Even with a healthy sex life, masturbation still plays an important part. Even now, it can still help me find what I like which just adds to what we do when we have sex. It’s my body, and if I want to give myself pleasure, I will. It certainly isn’t to the detriment of our relationship, I’d say it adds to it.
I’ve been married for almost 18 years and together with my now-wife for 21. I don’t generally masturbate unless she’s away overnight. As the one with the more restrictive refractory period I prefer to save my orgasms for our time together, which is near daily. The exceptions prove the rule, I’d say: I can think of one time that she was too bushed for sex at bedtime and I couldn’t fall asleep, so after reading for a bit and reading some I jerked one out for sleep; one or two times that I did take a midday wank when she was busy working and I needed stress relief; of course more regular stretches post-partum when she couldn’t, but encouraged me to masturbate beside her at bedtime.
When she’s gone I tend to masturbate at bedtime for sure, and often try to fit one in before the kids are home from school so that I’m more clearheaded for parenting. Her work schedule when traveling is very demanding, so we do generally know in advance if we’re planning space for a video chat and mutual masturbation at bedtime and I’ll try to abstain that day if it’s on the schedule.
She’s rather the same: there’s been a handful of times she has shared about midnight masturbations if she’s got some insomnia, though I generally encourage her to wake me up to join her.
Before getting married I’d masturbate probably 6 days a week sometimes a couple of times a day depending on how much I was feeling turned on
That’s 25 plus years ago
On average sex with my wife is once a week tho rarely twice a week
In between my typical week I would say I masturbate twice a week on average depending on having any time home alone
If I’m home alone a weekend I maybe masturbate 6 or 7 times
For me masturbation releases my frustration but I also have very different feelings from sex with my wife as it’s usually involving wearing lingerie and being on cam with other guys who are also masturbating
It’s the same for me, in or out. I tend to masturbate more, when my period’s due though. That’s how I know it’s due, cos I get unbelievably horny! But I’ve always done it a lot. When he’s home, I’ll often do it for a bit, then get him to finish me off, one way or another.
I’ve been in my current relationship for 17 years, and I knock one out whenever I feel necessary, the same as I did when I was single. Masturbation is totally natural and sometimes having alone time is a must needed exercise. When I was at the dating stage, I’d often knock one out before I met the person, so I could last longer in bed. I’d even get to their place and knock a quick on out in their bathroom. Sometimes I do this now however it’s just whenever I feel the need to. I find masturbation is a great way to relieve stress, and help soothe the brain. I have a perfectly active sex life and have sex 3-4 times per week. Just because we masturbate doesn’t mean we think any less of our partners, nor does it mean we ain’t completely satisfied. It just means we enjoy our own company from time to time.
Depends on if having a orgasm counts, I would of probably said I masturbate just as much in or out of a relationship, but these days being single I much prefer edging for days/weeks because I like feeling on the edge and feeling horny for as long as I can.
If I was in a relationship I would be masturbating and cuming more often than I would be edging.
