So been with my partner a long time now, i came out a few years ago about crossdressing/wearing lingerie and wanting her to use a strap on and what not, which she doesn’t use on me that often unfortunately, however few months ago i started using it by myself with a wedge and sticking it to an angled mirror which works amazingly, which she is completely fine with and knows i do it from time to time
However yesterday she asked me to video it so she could see, which i was going to do today but she has now said she wants to sit in a chair and watch me do it, now for some reason I’m a little bit shy and nervous and im not 100% sure why i will get ready wear some lingerie and get started, ill straddle it and do my thing and call her up but part of me feels like ill change the plan and wont be able to do it in front of her
Talk with your wife @MrBig2015 about the concerns and fears and help alleviate them before you play. It will make it a lot easier and hopefully much more pleasurable
I literally just let Mrs C watch me use a dildo on myself for the first time on Wednesay.
It started because I was going to take a butt plug out in the bathroom. She asked if she could watch so I took it out on the bed as she lay down with a good view.
I didn’t realise she enjoyed watching me that much, so I moved onto the dildo and she masturbated watching me.
Anyway I say go for it as she probably will get turned on and it can only open up your sex life.
If I’m having some solo time on the bed I usually end up with our glass toy buried in me first time OH caught me she asked what I was doing so I just said well you know how I like some ass play with you I decided to try some on my own and she just said oh no problem then lay down and watched then admitted to me that it looked so erotic and had her turned on then said can I join you so of course I said yes thinking she was just going to masturbate her pussy while fucked my ass but she had other ideas and took another dildo and asked me to suck it then lubed up her ass and slid it in later that night we were talking in bed and she said she was still horny and would I slide my cock in her ass I sad well how about you fuck your ass while I suck on your pussy and clit that’s what we did then I told her I needed something in my ass now so she slid our glass toy in me fucked me while I sucked her and she fucked her ass we unfortunately haven’t done it since
I think it’s quite a natural thing to get nervous with someone watching you do sexual stuff regardless if it’s your partner or a stranger but maybe try get her involved so then it’s less awkward perhaps?
I’d suspect the whole shyness is about feeling silly doing stuff while she sits there watching?..
I’m slowly building up to it. She introduced me to anal play with a cheeky finger whilst giving me a blowjob and ever since I’ve enjoyed it. done a fair bit of exploring but only solo and find I can never relax enough to enjoy it fully so want to involve her and go from there.
I second @Long-John-Silver 's advice here — having fun is important, but so is communication. If you’re having anxieties, you need to be able to communicate that. Find what works for you both, and makes you both comfortable. Best of luck!
I get very shy about doing things like masturbating with my OH watching. We did that yesterday and Imwasnt able to,fully relax and cum. As time goes on, and I feel more confident, it probably will get easier though. Still, it is hard to quash those inhibitions, even after so many years together.
It feels so bizarre to be laying there next to her, and touching myself so brazenly. Years of hiding my self pleasuring can’t be undone over night. We are adults and the reality that we both have probably been masturbating for all those years without openly admitting it or integrating it into our sex play seems crazy. I hope we can bring mutual masturbation into our mix of things that we do to liven up our very vanilla sex life. It’s true ( I think) an old dog can learn new tricks.
I felt the same way with my partner and I asked her if she wanted to see it turns out she thinks its hot asf, do you man if you relax and enjoy it she will enjoy it
My wife and I mutually agreed pegging sounds hot and fun, totally new experience for her and I. Up until a couple weeks ago I had only ever had my finger up the back door. We got a prostate massager and Friday night she wanted to watch my try it out. Within a couple minutes that turned into “let me help you get that in” and then “i’ll hold the handle and help find your spot” - and now she’s fully hooked. Start off doing it yourself and ask her if she wants to drive!
We’ve got a glass dildo that could certainly be used for pspot play, if I could get the nerve to bring it up. Firstly, I want to use it on her, or watch her use it. She hasn’t taken it out of the soft bag it came in except to look at it and put it away.
We tried mutual masturbation yesterday for the very first time. It took a lot of courage for me to bring it up. I think we both enjoyed it at some level. And thinking about it this morning fueled my first orgasm in 9-10 days when i pleasured myself.
i will get ready wear some lingerie and get started, ill straddle it and do my thing and call her up but part of me feels like ill change the plan and wont be able to do it in front of her