I havent been on here in a while as I dont have the internet, (im borrowing one now quickly) Its just now I wanna talk about this.
My fiance recently expressed to me that he likes to wear womens thongs. I was OK at first because I am extremely open minded and I do know that a lot of men like this. He explained that it isnt sexual, it just feels comfortable and he likes to wear them.
We went out and he wore my thong and this was ok but he did get a bit emotional thinking I would think him weird etc, I reassured him and this was fine. Now this was about 2 months ago.
Now the other night again when he had a bit to drink he confessed that he wanted to do it again and that he had wore my pants when I was at work. Which I admit phased me a bit but I quickly accepted it.
So we got home and he put them on and this was ok but then he moved my hand to his ass and asked me to spank him, I did and he got turned on and suddenly was moaning at me to finger my ass (which I have done plenty of times and again have no problem with), but then he got really into it and started moaning and wanking himself off and suddenly I felt sick. We went on until he came, btu after I felt extremely uncomfortable and rather degraded (strong word I know but I cant express it any other way), I ended up crying myself to sleep.
The next day I couldnt look at him and still felt ill, then I found out he was wearing them out with my grandparents when we went to lunch. After some thinking and scoulding of myself, I realised that the problem wasnt with both the instances but them together. I advised him that I didnt have a problem and he can wear them but not when we are in bed together or having sex. He broke down and promised not to wear them ever again, I tried to tell him it is ok but..I didnt beleive it myself.
So basically my problem is that I want to be ok with it but I feel really uncomfortable with it now and as much as I hate to say it cant look at him the same.
I am so open minded and agree to everyones fetishes and beliefs so why do I have such problem?
Do any other males on here like wearing womens underware for a non-sexual thrill, just for the way they feel?
Your story seems to have a contradiction, or maybe you're just not sure of yourself. You say you want to be okay with it but you feel uncomfortable. Is it the fact that he enjoys wearing women's underwear, or is it rather the fact that he's been wearing your underwear without your permission or giving you a warning?
In regards to the bit with the spanking, I can understand why you would feel that way, but would you still feel as degraded if he'd just been in the buff rather than wearing your underwear?
I think an awful lot of men would like to wear women's undies - they're far silkier and more sexy than PANTS, but of course there's a massive taboo round it because of course the assosications are with cross-dressing, gender-bending, homosexuality, etc. etc. and a general lack of manliness if you wear anything other than a rough hessian sack held up with bailer twine.
You need to work out what it is about it that bothers you, in the meantime be gentle on the lad, he's clearly sensitive about it.
ok, i the reason i think you feel uncomfortable with it is cos,
all through this post you said how he says its a none sexual thing, however the last time he put them on you got in to a naughty session and he seemed from what you said more in to it and excited then maybe normal. and it all actually felt that this wasnt cos womens unders feel nice but this is something he actually likes sexualy?
and for you that is just crossing one of your boundires, i also think that maybe you see it as a sexual thing and that is why you didnt feel comfortable with him wearing them when seeing your grandparents.
i think you and your partner really need to talk about this and for you to be both 100% honest with each other about your feelings ect ect.
not sure if this is any help, i just think you felt uncomfy cos it become a sexual like, not just cos the undies might feel better.
personaly i think blokes boxers look a lot more nice and comfy then my thongs and cant see how people think they feel and look better but there you go! lol
ok, i the reason i think you feel uncomfortable with it is cos,
all through this post you said how he says its a none sexual thing, however the last time he put them on you got in to a naughty session and he seemed from what you said more in to it and excited then maybe normal. and it all actually felt that this wasnt cos womens unders feel nice but this is something he actually likes sexualy?
and for you that is just crossing one of your boundires, i also think that maybe you see it as a sexual thing and that is why you didnt feel comfortable with him wearing them when seeing your grandparents.
i think you and your partner really need to talk about this and for you to be both 100% honest with each other about your feelings ect ect.
not sure if this is any help, i just think you felt uncomfy cos it become a sexual like, not just cos the undies might feel better.
personaly i think blokes boxers look a lot more nice and comfy then my thongs and cant see how people think they feel and look better but there you go! lol
Dxx
I think D has hit the nail on the head, i think he said it wasn't a sexual thing and then you both had a sexual experience while he was wearing them. I can understand why men want to wear them and it wouldn't bother me but if you are uncomfortable you need to talk to him, it seems as though he has a lot of guilt about it so maybe he needs to talk to someone too! Good luck! x
I must say that I'm surprised that any guy finds the thought of a thong more comfortable than other underwear! I suspect the key thing is that wearing yours turns him on. I'm not a crossdresser, but I would find it arousing to temporarily put on a nice pair of a partner's panties (I'm not keen on thongs in any respect) as a sexual thrill if she had already worn them, but it would be a different matter to wear them out and about and with her grandparents - which I'd find rather inappropriate! So I do think he might be stretching the truth somewhat by saying it's non-sexual.
I'm not surprised you find it confusing but it sounds like it could be troubling for him too. Maybe you can reach a suitable compromise by setting clear boundaries regarding what you find acceptable.
