my hubby used to watch porn, but he worked away and i didn't mind, as i watched it too! lol I don't see anything wrong with it if it is not all hush hush and done in secret.. i can understand people that get upset if they find out their partner has been watching it in secret.. me and hubby are open with eachother, he often gets porn for me that includes certain things that 'do it for me' lol and we often watch it together.. i wouldn't have it any other way. Its nothing to be ashamed about or disgusted with etc.. i know my hubby is not longing for any of the women on it.. he doesn't watch it on his own anymore, just with me, infact - i watch it when i am on my own sometimes so i would say i watch it more than him lol mind you he works nights and i am all on my own every night.. can you blame me?? ;-) lol
Im female and more than happy for my partner to watch porn, whether alone or with me. I enjoy porn (well I would like to if there was more for women!) I think its a perfectly normal way to turn yourself on. Its perfectly reasonable to masturbate if theyre not around, bit weird if they are though!
my boyfriend watched it alone until i told him i also liked watching it,now we always do it together and he told me it,s not the same now when he watches it alone,so now i have no fear of him watching it.and it do,s wonders for your sex life
My partner has always watched porn, long before he met me. I never had a problem with it because it's not as though he's doing anything wrong or blowing me off to watch it. Since he went away to study I'm even more thankful for porn because it helps give him that relief without having to go else where for it, so I'm firmly behind porn. If a woman gets jelous over the pron their man is watching, just remeber, these women are on the pages of magazines, on the tv or computer, they aren't in the room and yeah your partner can watch them do what they're doing but they can't touch so theres no chance of them being unfaithful to you with porn! (hopefully no-one will come back and tell me their man has :S)
my partner watcxhs porn all the time , he says its just re search?
I get more turned on by reading porn than watching it,as most of the films are Miss Perfects with plastic tits and 23 inch waist's ...(even the guy's despite impressive cocks seem from a different planet) ....and "wooden acting" make it all a bit cold for my taste. I usually find a few good stories on watchersweb(see my profile for direct link). Another good site for "mature real sex" is www.amateur-blogs.com.... real people of all ages and sizes rather than unobtainable model types.Can still never understand women, especially over 30's(and I actually work with a few) who flip if they find their man's been watching any sort of Adult porn, adult porn does no one any harm and can enrich any trusting loving relationship. I have had my eyes and my mind opened to new idea's in the few weeks I've been on this site...my hubby thinks it's great and I feel so sexy about myself at the moment...once or twice a week was usually enough for me but at the moment I just can't get enough and want to continue experimenting albeit within guidelines, trouble is my fantasy is going beyond those guidelines.......
Yeah I also end up reading a lot of stories, mainly because I find porn so awful and directed only at men. I like words, I think they're hot as they make you use your mind more, but I wish there was more porn for women. Like I don;t want to see Ron Jeremy! I wanna see a hot men. It's not fair that the women are hotter than the men!
AngelI3737, i know exactky how you feel, and i am in exactly the same position, again with me we used to watch it together but since our son was born it has been no more. he has always watched a bit on his own but now he has started to hide it form me and is sat on the computer all the time watching it. the worst thing i that when he climaxes he does 'it' into his socks and them leaves them lying round on the floor. well now i have stopped going into the computer room alltoghether and he ran out of clean socks months ago.
my partner sometimes watches porn. i dont mind if its wid me or i dont know about it
I watch Porn with my wife it’s our Saturday Inn Thing, once in awhile I watch on my own to find anything interesting that I can perform on My Wife. Men who Cum into their Socks Romanticizing, is TOTALLY WRONG!!!
it's all fun it's part of a healthy sex life try something new every now and then
to me porn s a part of life and most people watch it
It depends on the type of people you are personally I know my boyfriend has seen porn and looks at it with the lads but we both dont see the point in it really so would never watch it together.
We have watched it together once or twice, but it gets turned off, usually by me and we have fun all of our own. Its all a bit of harmless fun really, may give your fella some good ideas! LOL
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Not to scare you or anything but "it", may not "work its self out". Be careful. If this really does bother you when he looks at porn with out you than my advice is to address it now.My husband and I used to look at porn often before we got married and had a baby. During my pregnancy he wanted nothing to do with sexually. This hurt because I wanted him so badly.Of course he turned to porn and sneaking around to do it. It made for a very stressful pregnancy. Now three years later we are on verge of divorce. You see it's the porn again. I don't mind it that much, as long as I am getting some and not sexually deprived. It has ruined everything between us. My whole personality has changed and I don't know where it went and how to get it back. I have expressed my feelings to him over this and he still continues to do it. I have asked several times to go to marriage counsouling and I guess it just doesn't mean enough to him to go. I can't describe the pain I am in, in having to deal with the fact that he has chosen porn, his hand over me his wife that has never not wanted to have sex with him. So,So demoralizing
oh and to add to that lovely situation that I described....... when we are on the outs about this he turns the whole thing around on me. Goes around the house brooding and being rude. Never once says sorry. Never once having the slightest bit of empathy for me and how I may feel. I am only 28! I should be having a great energyzied sex life with man that I have loved for 5 years now. I am just so disappointed with my self for choosing to give my all to such a heartless selfish man. This should be a huge glowing sign saying "get out" because where is the sanity? Where is the love and respect? The saddest thing is , is I have no where to go.
Let me start by saying that my partner and I both love to watch porn together, not during every session but frequently.
We also both wank on our own when not together, sometimes you just have to scratch that itch!.
When I masturbate on my own I will usually incorporate porn into it, my partner, usually does not. I don't imagine myself with those taking part, lust after individual 'actresses' or compare my partner to them in any way. Regardless of the ethics of porn production, as far as masturbating goes, it is the act, the scene and the voyeristic observation of sexual energies. For en who are highly sexually aware, the mental side becomes very important. This is mainly because when it comes to the male orgasm, the range, types and variation most women are capable of enjoying, simply is not there.
Having said that some people can get addicted to masturbation and porn. If this is set within a relationship, it can be due to libido disparity but more frequently a lack of satisfaction from sex. If your partner is watching porn, it is not because he is fantasizing or lusting over the individual women, he is trying to get the sexual gratification he is not getting within the relationship. I AM NOT SAYING THE LACK OF GRATIFICATION IS THE FAULT OF EITHER PARTNER. Yes some partners can be bad in bed or unwilling to do things the other partner wants, but some people don't know what they want themselves. If you don't tell your partner what you want, they are unlikely to guess. What should be avoided is overly 'blaming' the porn as you fix this as an issue, it becomes an area of contention and simply causes further tension, thus driving a further wedge between yourselves and breeding a greater reliance on porn. I am not saying I can solve the problem, as most have different root causes. What I am saying is try to talk about what is really the problem, without mentioning the porn, as the porn is merely a tool or crutch and arguing about it is a distraction.
I do feel sorry for you dgraham and hope you eventually end up in a happy place. What you have is a situation where the cause of the original problem has been lost. The focus on porn as the problem has become the be all and end all rather than it being a symptom/byproduct which it originally was. (If you feel I have over stepped the mark here dgraham, please don't hesitate to alert a moderator and have it removed. I just see it as a prime example of this type of problem. Again I wish you and your child/children well.)
i like to watch porn because it gives me ideas of different things to try or suprise my partner with. also being a man i love the feel of my cock in my hand. and if she is not home to help with that, what am i to do.
I love porn. I might even like porn more than real sex. Does this make me a bad husband?
haha no..the fantasy is almost always better than the reality. Girls just watch the porn with your boyfriends/husbands and make sure you get something out of it too! i watch porn with my guy whenever we're in the mood for combining the fantasy and the reality ;) i recommend it to all you ladies
I'm gonna put my 10 cents in now...lol
I can understand why Angel feels the way she does, I hear the same thing from most of my friends. And at one point I felt the same. Until I took a step back and realised that I fantasize while I'm masturbating and generally I'm not fantasising about my boyfriend - this doesn't mean I don't love my boyfriend, get turned on by him or find him insanely attractive etc. I usually think of generic scenarious, sometimes in the fantasy it isn't even me having sex if you know what I mean...
The difference is my fantasies are in my head and not lying on the bedroom floor, on a DVD or computer, my fantasies are private. Men are turned on by what they can see and while generally women are too, I dunno...I think our imagination plays a great part in womens arousal hence we read erotic literature (not that guys don't too you understand!)
It's almost hypocrisy really, men look at porn mags or videos, read books whatever in order to fantasize and get off - what's the problem? "He looks at blonde girls, that are like size 8 with big breasts...I look nothing like that!" Correct, you don't. Who is your man going to bed with every night? You, not the skinny blonde waif.
It's all fantasy, it's not real. Porn shouldn't be seen as a threat.
If however, your man is staying up all night looking at porn when he could be in bed doing the do with you THAT is when you should be concerned.