So I promise I have done a search (feel free to move if needed) but I have a query I think you may all be able to help with.
I have been watching a lot of porn recently (sorry to shock you all! 
) and I am trying to figure out why men like to grab a womans mouth during sex?
I get gags, thumb sucking, fingers in mouth etc but I don’t get why hooking the side of a persons mouth like a fish is erotic/exciting.
I am prepared to be enlightened, so any thoughts?
Me and my partner suck and gently bite each other’s fingers especially when she’s had her fingers inside her or I’ve had mine inside her
@MrsT
I don’t understand the mouth hook either but when they put their finger into the woman’s mouth - it more of trying it out for cock sucking that will no doubt happen
Personally don’t get it, it is the same as light strangulation. But again it is each to their own.
Good question. I’ve never thought about it, but I definitely like to do this too.
I would assume it’s a domination thing.
Thanks for trying to explain @Gareth . I guess it could be a heat of the moment or dominance thing.
@DLJL I quite like breathe play but nothing extreme. I often find myself holding my breath just before I orgasm from masturbation.
Well MrsT, porn is porn and most not what real couples/partners do…mostly porn is for entertainment and not what everyday couples experience with each other… I do watch porn also and I do not get what you are talking about either…its something that is not what real couples do…when I see something like that when watching porn I discount it and move on to some other form of porn
@southernstar Respectfully, I find it relatively dismissive to say x that you see in porn isn’t what ‘real couples’ do.
The only reason I really mention it is because I’ve found that in my early adulthood I’ve been told (more times than I can probably count) that I’m too extreme, or to stop wanting x, y, or z because that’s ‘only porn’ and isn’t what people in relationships do. It didn’t feel great and made me feel like there was something wrong with me.
Then the more conversation and sexual encounters I had I realised that there are plenty of people who are into what I’ve been told is ‘only done in porn’.
Yes, porn isn’t always representative of ‘real sex’, but plenty of people are into kinks or interactions that some dismiss as being ‘only for porn’. Ultimately I think that though I can read what you said and dismiss it, I’d like to challenge what you said for the benefit of people who are in the same position as I used to be as I wish someone had told me.
Seen it in porn and never like it but I have never seen real life couples do it. There must be a reason, fingers in mouth is a turn on but not going past the dentist feeling lol I hate the dentist lol
@southernstar Whilst I agree and understand that porn isn’t sometimes a good representation of some real life experiences, the reason for so much variation is to cater (for want of a better word) for everyones kinks/fantasies & tastes. Therefore although it might be over the top in some instances, I am sure quite a few real couples like to experience a variation of what is depicted in porn. Like you, if I don’t like something I move on. However, I do like watching ‘extreme’ or rough sex and the ‘fish hooking’ seems popular.
The only reason I asked the initial question was to try and understand the appeal 
Agreed @Gareth and worded much better.
@teacake 100% agree about the dentist but I don’t think I have ever met anyone that like to go to the dentist yet 
well Gareth thank you for your reply and I respect your opinions…as much as I do like watching porn I still believe its more sexual entertainment than reality, so can we agree to disagree??? In reading your reply I understand you have kinks that others may have at some point thought were extreme…so could you share some of those extreme kinks of yours with me
@southernstar I think we can agree that you may watch something in porn and see that as something that couples don’t do - but others may actually do this stuff. So, although something may not appear in your, or even most relationships, it’s dismissive to say that real couples don’t do it. Unless we’re talking about really obscure things, maybe, which grabbing someone by the mouth isn’t.
It felt a little like kink shaming to me, or at the very least it was dismissive.
My personal kinks don’t matter on this one or is relevant to the subject.
I think alot of my kinks have come from watching porn in my younger days. So where it looks unrealistic on the porn sites it actually does happen between real life people but not looking so unrealistic.
I have a big thing for not wanting fingers in my mouth as I get paranoid about germs and if hands be clean enough lol
But I guess guys just like to do the hooking thing as they want to feel like they caught a trout maybe?! 
May be just me but I love the feeling of being fish hooked! It creates a whole different sense of vulnerability
So its true Betsys_boobs, women do like to feel vulnerable???
Franky as a man, I find it a turnoff.
I haven’t seen it, but then I don’t watch porn. But if a partner were to try to hook my cheek like a fish…they’re probably going to get bit. I nip a bit anyway during sex…