Ok, I just had my smear test, and well, let’s just say it was not easy. I am a virgin and have not played with any toys but a bullet (and only on the outside) for years now, so I am very tight. But the last few weeks, I have been well-fingering myself and ended up bleeding. I asked about it at the smear test, and the nurse said it could be because I am not sexually active, which could lead me to be sensitive, but she was not sure.
So, to rule this out, I want to get some toys to play with to see if the sensitivity stuff goes away once I start playing fully. But as I said, I am very tight, and even getting a finger in there is not the easiest at times lol
So what would be good recommendations for toys to start off with, to start opening myself up without it hurting because the few toys I do have don’t work. I have a g spot hitter and can not even get the thing in unless I force it, which then hurts, so I need some help as I have no idea what I should do and just want to be able to enjoy my time without worrying about bleeding every time I finger myself.
Thank you for any help and advice.
My first piece of advice would be to be as relaxed and ideally turned on as possible before trying to insert anything. Having a clitoral orgasm first can certainly help, but even just the stimulation if you don’t orgasm will help. You can also use your bullet around the opening to your vagina as vibration can help relax the muscles. Depending on what bullet you have, you might want to change to a more rumbly, lower frequency vibration toy as the vibrations will penetrate deeper. Lovehoney’s Mon Ami range is pretty good so worth a look. I wouldn’t necessarily go for anything too powerful (such as a wand) or anything too intense (like the air pulse toys) as they can be a bit much and are likely to distract from what you are trying to achieve.
From an actual penetration toy point of view, I would recommend looking at dilators. Lovehoney do 2 sets, which gradually increase in size with the idea being you start with the smallest and when you can take that easily, you move up a size. This can take a little time, so don’t expect to be able to get to the big one quickly.
If you don’t like the idea of getting a whole set, I’d suggest having a look in either the beginners anal or anal bead categories. You can use anal toys vaginally and something like this https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/anal-beads/p/rocks-off-petite-sensations-purple-vibrating-anal-beads/a41507g84356.html might work, although don’t feel you have to insert the full length. If that looks to big, there is a smaller toy https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/butt-plugs/vibrating-butt-plugs/p/rocks-off-teazer-petite-sensations-beginners-vibrating-butt-plug/a38928g74347.html which would also work.
However, most importantly you should use plenty of lube. Again, I’d suggest looking at anal lubes, particularly the water based ones. These will be thicker than standard water based so will give more cushioning. Don’t be tempted by anything relaxing or numbing though. You don’t want to be blocking pain (pain means something is wrong and you need to stop) and they just aren’t designed with vaginas in mind.
I echo @Calie’s advice - be as relaxed as you can and take your time - it’s supposed to be enjoyable 
Good luck 
(The first vibrator I ever bought was a rabbit, thinking it’d be fine. Short answer, it wasn’t. I still have to work up to girthy toys, I can’t just start with them.)
As others have said … relax and take it slow, it’s not a race and you don’t want to hurt yourself. Lube is always a good idea for a first time toy user, even if you feel naturally you can get wet enough, lube is so much better for toys as it’s thicker and designed for play.
Next I would suggest something small and simple, a finger vibe is always good as a starter or just stick to clitoral stimulation. The good news is the smear test was fine and everything is healthy, just take it slow and relax.
I would recommend this little beauty
Currently out of stock, but does come back in. The head is super soft and small. I use it for clitoral stimulation and once I’m wet or with added extra lube ( liquid silk) is lovely, you might be able to start to slip the head inside and / or stimulate your opening. Lots of different speeds - no 3 is a deep, constant rumble.
Enjoy, take your time and relax.
Thank you guys so much, i will take a look at all the toys you have posted and keep what you say in mind. I feel a bit better now and I looking forward to having some fun 
i’m late to this thread (hubby bought a stinkin’ cold back from the gym, which was rather nice of him 
) but I second advice from others: if I’m not relaxed and wet first, I find dildos etc painful too. You have to want it; you have to want sex. Otherwise you’re essentially penetrating your body with a blunt object that it doesn’t want in it and wondering why it’s not happy. It only works if you want it.
Start small and use lots of lube. It’s great having ambition, but you’re not ready for ambition yet. Your goal for now is to get your body to enjoy being penetrated. Once you manage to relax and enjoy, the world is your oyster.
The other thing to to consider is the possibility of dyspareunia (painful sex). That can have a variety of causes, ranging from anxiety to being overzealous to baceterial or yeast infections, to even anatomical issues that may require surgical intervention (unlikely). If you have no joy, it’s worth popping back to your doctor for another chat, after all, they’re there to help too. Good luck
@rachels270692, you do need to be in the right head space, and be turned on, Porn is a good start, and there is NO rush and you must use lube either your own or out of a bottle, the main thing is to have fun !
thank you i will kepe all that in mind, I tend to over think things a lot which may also be my problem. i have never had the big O before or at less I don think I have, I get like a build up, my breaths catches but then nothing like its just gone so not sure if I over think it away or just the big O is not as good for me as it is for other lol
But I will keep all you have said in mind and keep trying but start slow and not to rush
thanks i will try that next time
I second what everyone has recommended. You need time and space to relax and play with yourself. So make sure you have no interruptions and can see to your pleasure as long as it takes.
Don’t be in a rush to put large toys inside you. Relax and enjoy exploring with your fingers, it’s what we girls have all done.
Lube is very good to prevent tears it you go too big too fast. Get a clit sucker to enhance your orgasms and it lets you concentrate on that rather than penetration. Also consider that if you have never been penetrated your human will be intact so that is something you may have to overcome when getting deeper in your vagina.
Have fun exploring your sexual organ and enjoy the feeling.