Hi everyone ,
My boyfriend likes to indulge in my ass but wont let me play with his .
How can i make him see that whats good for goose is good for gander ? .
its not like i grabbed a huge assed toy n laughed manicaly and made evil advances towards his rectum .
i did the whole seductive stuff and copius amounts of foreplay , a small lil bullet ,but nope his ass stayed shut .
please help , i have tried looking for poppers but nowhere sells them .
It may not be for all, some males think it might be more for a male / male relationship and not realise that straight males can enjoy it as well. Others are more concerned if something was to come out and don’t want to feel embarrassed by it, without understanding that it is an empty section of the body for most of the time. My OH surprised me whilst she went down on me with a sly finger slipping in. The pleasure was amazing and my O was one of the strongest I have enjoyed. I love it now when ever she plays with it, especially when getting a hand job. The best way is to communicate first and reassure him.
Devoted Husband wrote:
It may not be for all, some males think it might be more for a male / male relationship and not realise that straight males can enjoy it as well. Others are more concerned if something was to come out and don’t want to feel embarrassed by it, without understanding that it is an empty section of the body for most of the time. My OH surprised me whilst she went down on me with a sly finger slipping in. The pleasure was amazing and my O was one of the strongest I have enjoyed. I love it now when ever she plays with it, especially when getting a hand job. The best way is to communicate first and reassure him.
I would second this.
It is most likely that your OH feels like this is not 'straight behaviour', if it is something that you would like to partake in then the best thing would be to talk to him and talk through his reasons. If he comes back and says hes not gay then re assure him that it has nothing to do with sexuality and take it slow from there.
Maybe slowly work your way down there, giving him the chance to say no if he begins to feel uncomfortable.
I would reccoment not purchasing poppers as it sounds more like a mental thing for him, buying something like poppers and presenting them to him would more than likely create more pressure on him to partake when he may not want too.
I would be cautious with a bullet, it might go in there and not come out! Always use something with a large base designed for anal play
I wouldn't bother buyng poppers - unless you are generally into solvent inhalation, in which case it's certainly a bit safer than huffing lighter fluid. :) Natural relaxation, proper lube, and sufficient prep/foreplay will likely be enough, without introducing artificial relaxants.
I would say: try not to pressure him about it, as it's unlikely to help. Maybe try introducing more anal play when you are doing other stuff. E.g. touching/rimming as part of a blowjob. Given time, he might realise he does find it pleasurable, and then he'll relax into it.
Alternatively, it may never be his cup of tea, which is fine.