@yote023 welcome 
I’m sure you’ll enjoy a lot of the conversation on here. Its definitely helped expand my sex life
Thank you and I hope to get to know many new people and enjoy conversations and discussions who know may help me and maybe I can help someone. I would love to know your revelation that has changed so much for you in marriage of 28 years it’s been 31 for me and after our 1st child sex was a thing if the past and how dare I try anything new with her. But at 50+ I have decided I provided and gave for many many years with no regrets doing all I could for my family and wife but at 50+ I’m tired of being made feel dirty because I wanna experience new sexual things with her we are empty nesters now and there is really no excuses can be made I hope others can shed light on how I can make her sexually interested again without the guilt and shame for fantasies
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Hi there and welcome
Hi @yote023 to have any hope of your wife being interested in sex, you need to find out why she’s not interested in sex. I’m guessing your 1st child was early on in your marriage and from how you describe your wife it sounds like sex may be purely for procreation.
I hope you both have some intimacy like hugs, non sexual touch…if not, then start there.
Communication is where you start, and you might also consider therapy.
Good luck.
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Just like others have said communication is very important. I struggled for years with anxiety and depression. I’ve been in therapy for almost 2 years now and really clicked with my therapist. I’m in Lifespan Integration therapy for childhood trauma and neglect, my mom reinforced fear, fesr, fear. She had trauma and also serious mental health problems.
Our last 3 years have been horrible in our marriage. He would occasionally bring up his need for intimacy and asked me if I loved him any longer, I told him it was my issue and that I would work on it. It really reached a different level when I got on antianxiety and antidepressants meds and I was fortunate that it worked almost immediately. The anxiety was the worst part because when I started that med, well wow whee did it really start changing for me. Probably took about 2 to 3 months and we jumped right back into our sex life full throttle 
. Now we talk about it quite frequently, spend time together in our daily lives, just chatting, household work, making plans. This did not happen overnight but a slow build up for quite a while and then we got into the sweet spot. I had to work thru my upbringing to allow myself space, healing, realization of the destructive and negative crap from growing up. I would be gentle with her and start slowly as well. @yote023 no need to open the floodgates but drop some things in conversation about what you want. Be honest and maybe she’ll surprise you. Therapy has helped my marriage in the past as well.
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@yote023 hello welcome to the forum 
Welcome to the forum dude, tell us more about wanting to explore your sexual side?
Hi @yote023 & welcome to the party 
Hi @yote023 welcome to the LH forum
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