We found a good way of testing boundaries
Truth or dare
Cut some A4 into squares and label them truth, Dare, forfeit etc
Now the World is your Lobster as they say, with regards to what you write
Start off tame, and throw a slightly risqué one or two in the mix
Guage the reaction on receipt of the card.
If your partner seems excited, then you are on a winner, disgusted, then laugh it off saying that you thought it'd be funny to shock them, and it wasn't meant to be taken seriously!
Adjust the theme for the next bout, swaying in the the direction that you feel they are drawn.
Generous helpings of alcohol can help things loosen up too.
It can also be a way of discovering hidden fantasies, again for later cards.
You can build this DIY game into kinky tie up fun or vanilla play, the rules belong to you!
We must have over 200 of each cards now
Only trouble we've found is coming up with new ideas, as repeated ones get stale!
My only advice is keeping things IN THE MOMENT, cards that say things to do the next day tend to get forgotten, as the hot mood cools by the next day.
Can be a great catalyst to start fun another time if done correctly....
Dare: Wear no knickers to the park the next day and let me touch you.
Think you can guess the rest!