Me and my partner have a great sex life and are up for most things. I was just wondering what other couples get upto in or out of the bedroom to keep their sex life spicy 
We love outdoor sex. That doesnât have to mean in the High Street 
We love going out in our garden on a dark, warm summerâs night and laying on a blanket , we have sex. Mmmmm!
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It would be helpful to know what sort of things you are doing at the moment.
@Izzy76
Love a bit of spanking ( he gets the spanking) and pegging and love to dominate in the bedroom- but also enjoy dressing up
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Pegging and the fun leading up to pegging for the first time. Wife enjoys me eating her cream pie, cum swapping. Those are our two big fetishâs at the moment.
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Without knowing more, my default here is going to be to get a big general list of kinks (can I suggest you buy the book â101 kinky things even you can doâ) and sit down with your partner for an open and honest conversation about which youâre 1) interested in, 2) open to trying and 3) off the table etc. You can score them out of 1-5 or whatever. You both should have a really open mind and be clear that itâs a total safe space free of judgment.
You can then discuss how what about the kink you like, and how youâd like to try to incorporate it etc. Then you can feedback afterwards to evaluate how it was, if you liked it, what youâd want to change etc.
I think that would be way more beneficial and specific to your relationship than me talking about super specific things my partner and I like to do. If we enjoyed swinging (for example) but you donât like to share, then thatâs not helpful to you at all.
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Just on this, there are free BDSM checklists online that you can download and fill out in a similar fashion, I know this because I have one on my blog (probably canât share the link, but there is a search function). No need to buy books 
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Bondage, bondage, bondage, bo ⊠no, but seriously, as @Gareth Gareth said, itâs horses for courses and not every couple is the same.
Hubby and I are a Dom/sub pairing, weâve been together 19 years in total. Weâve been Dom/sub for longer than weâve been romantcially involved, thatâs how long itâs been for us. Even if we never âupgradedâ our kink - we never moved away from bedroom restraints to a fully kitted out dungeon (never had the room or the resources!) - kink has never not been a thing for us. Even in our day to day lives, for example, I shared a story on the forum the other day of how my husband humiliated me over my eating a jelly.
How do we take our kink? Like I say, bondage, sensation play, temperature play. wax play, sensory deprivation (with blindfolds/ear plugs), tickling, humiliation play, impact play (spanking, flogging, belting). roleplay, breeding fantasy, anal play, edging. Thereâs lots to try, but kink doesnât appeal to everyone and itâs okay if it doesnât
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Unrelated question to this post, but on what you said in your reply⊠(sorry for the temporary hijack)
Iâm looking into playing a little more with sensory deprivation with the wife. Of course weâve done/do the blindfolds and hoods etc, but havenât played with hearing yet.
How do you suggest best doing this? Do you just use earplugs or is there a more effective way?
Do you also have any good suggestions of how you like to incorporate it into play? Iâm thinking of trying plugs and a hood over the top, but welcome input from anyone else who has experience.
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Weâre naked at home most of the time - thatâs pretty hot. We can go out in the back yard nude day or night - privacy fence - and have had sex outside several times. Weâve watched each other masturbate all the way too.
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Not a problem at all, Iâm happy to help. Itâs what weâre here for.
Weâve tried various things, with varying degrees of success. Ear plugs (we used swimming ones because I had a free pair come with some swimming goggles lol) worked somewhat but werenât too comfortable, the mouldable putty ones work better but were a bit cold and âoddâ at first.
You could try ear muffs if you donât mind the asthetic, but, well, there is the asthetic. Fine for some but not for everyone.
The other thing weâve tried is with music, either with bluetooth earphones or with headband earphones for sleep. Again, you can play around with that idea, for example, you could create a playlist ahead of time to kind of set a scene (we definitely didnât rip that idea from Fifty Shades!) or you could go for something more simple, like white or grey noise that will muffle the other sounds and noises.
Depending on how sadistic you like being, you could even do as my delight of a husband has tried to do and mimick SAS Who Dares WIns by creating a playlist of some of the worst sounds, eg. babies crying, dentist drill, nails on chalkboard etc. Itâs mentally torturous and puts your partner in a very vulnerable state, which was exactly his goal when I was acting up. We do play rough sometimes, and thatâs not for everyone
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