@JoCat you said something early on that really changed me “Put your own oxygen mask on first”. That struck a cord and has helped me more than will ever know. It means that much that I use it in my social media bios.
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That’s all so good to hear. You’re doing so well.
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I am so pleased things are working out for you @The_Little_Ladybird You have come a long way but you should remember it is all down to you, sometimes with advice/support but its you that has had to do it. WELL DONE. You sound as it your self confidence has increased as well and you are starting to enjoy life. In my book you are top of the class as well as hot, hot, 
hot.
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@steve19 thanks so much. Im definitely doing well confidence wise x
Aw I’m glad and its an easy way to allow you to look after yourself. We tend to think we’re being selfish by putting ourselves first and its really not the case. It’s how we’re able to look after other people effectively.
Its great to read how well you’re doing 
Edited to add that its lovely that you have a crush but even better that its not the ‘be all’
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@The_Little_Ladybird really fantastic update and great to hear you are doing so well ! You have definitely made a positive change for you and your son, life deals you a bad hand everyone once in a while I feel it’s how you react to it that makes the difference to thriving or sieving and your definitely thriving hun good luck you will find someone and you deserves to 
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That really is wonderful to read, what I am hearing there is you’re being true to yourself, your feelings, and responding with kindness and compassion. That is a wonderful thing indeed.
As you know, on a similar journey myself, and reading you updates always gives me that little hope and inspiration.
My journey feels like a roller-coaster. I’ve finally started to make progress on some basic routine, and it is helping, slowly but surely.
I have a long way to go, how long exactly, no idea. My head wants to either be fixing the past or controlling the future, when that happens I know I’m going to feel bad, it is happening because I am sad, lonely and scared. However, when I really look at things in this moment, where I am right now, everything is absolutely OK.
I have a life that a lot of people would be envious of, and I have this in spite of my thoughts around my condition. I know really it is a strength, it has made me a resourceful and strong person. However, the fear is of others judgement - and my truth is that there are a lot of people that see me, not my legs. It happens to be a great filter, meaning people wanting to connect with me are decent good humans - and removes the shallow types.
Funny how the head works, isn’t it? I can see the answers, I know all of the logic, it is all perfectly awesome and great. Yet occasionally Sully rattles the cage, throws a tantrum, and my only focus is on what I do not have.
Sorry, feels like I am hijacking your update with my own, again! Selfish of me, but of course reading yours compels me to share.
I also have to say how much help it has been knowing that others go through similar, and come out the other side.
Keep doing what you’re doing @The_Little_Ladybird I for one get a lot of strength from your posts, and I am sure others do too.
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@Mr_Kink1 no… I was hoping for an update.
I went through that phase too, things that I knew to be true somehow felt wrong.
For me this eventually stopped, I think its a form of shock or grief even.
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@Mr_Kink1 @The_Little_Ladybird
I think the fact that you are able to share such personal experiences in the forum is a testimony to your inner strength and resilience.
I enjoy reading the journey which you are on and that of others in this forum, it is inspirational and gives us all hope.
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I’m really pleased for you @The_Little_Ladybird, after all you’ve been through, you deserve plenty of happiness, sending lots of hugs 
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Good luck moving forward @The_Little_Ladybird, be proud of yourself x
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Great to read, I’m looking forward to the day when you report that you are “back in the saddle” again and I mean that in the nicest way, that you have gone full circle and ready to ruin another man (or ten) 
Wishing you well.
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@The_Little_Ladybird so glad you are doing so well and hopefully see you post in the when did you last have sex or when did you last masturbate threads soon … perhaps take the socks off for the first one with the new crush 
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@Chosen-one that made me laugh out loud.
Can you imagine “Im leaving my socks on, ok?” 
It all feels really odd. Its been over 25 years since I last dated. I feel excited, nervous and like Im going to vomit on myself a lot recently 
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Socks and crotchless panties is so 2023 go for it @The_Little_Ladybird
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I’m really glad things are starting to work out for you @The_Little_Ladybird Hopefully this man will wine and dine you, you deserve that. @Chosen-one did make me laugh regarding the socks. Its never a good look to leave your socks on. Sending you big hugs.
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I hadn’t caught up on your thread for a bit, but I was wondering how you were faring @The_Little_Ladybird. I’m glad to read that you’re doing well and feeling happier 
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Ha ha ha that is exactly what happened with my ex, she was very much ‘the socks are staying on, end of’ kinda lass, bless her.
That has made me smile, and sad too. It never bothered me, the sock thing, but did try on occasions to get them off… fond memories.
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@The_Little_Ladybird, only just caught up with this post, I’ve no advice other than to enjoy your date and hope it goes well for you.
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@The_Little_Ladybird did Tuesday date night go ahead ?