New things to try to spice up your sex life

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Hubby and I have been together for 18 years. What are some of your favorite things to do to spice things up?

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@m_greene2010
It’s a matter of conversation between you and your husband and be honest- me and my husband did this years ago and 5 years later we are into
Bondage
Pegging
Cross dressing
Anal
And it’s vital to talk - I was so vanilla in the past but afterwards I was into being a dominant in the bedroom

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A blind fold,Under the mattress restraints and a paddle are the best things me and my wife have every brought .

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We started experimenting with new sex toys and found out we’re much kinkier than we thought. Turns out restraining/spanking each other and putting stuff in our butts is pretty awesome!
My wife began trying different make-up looks and hair colors. It did a lot for her sexual confidence.
Before any of that could happen, we had to really open up to each other and improve our communication. It’s one of the best decisions we’ve made.

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We’ve got spicier and spicier over the years and I love it. We’ve done toys, BDSM, adventures outdoors, and most recently we’ve been exploring other avenues of fun. Just relax and be you !

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Honestly we sat down and had a conversation about things we want to try. There’s some online “will want won’t” lists out there that might give you ideas.

My personal favorite is discovering good sex board games, finding unique restraints, a neat role play idea, or finding local sex/kink events

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@m_greene2010 - great question!
For us, we love:

  • Planned playdates
  • Baths together with candles and music
  • Oily massages
  • Dress up! Lots of sexy lingerie and costumes for my wife - plus dancing :slight_smile:
  • Toys, toys and more toys! We love trying new ones and reviewing them together
  • Sober sex - with the lights on - and a fantastic view :star_struck:
  • Sexy stories :heart_eyes:

We have a position we love where we are super comfortable, facing each other, with me insider her (both propped up with pillows on the bed) and then use fingers and toys to give her lots of scrummy orgasms.

I heard once that the sexiest thing for a man, is a woman who knows how to take control of her own pleasure. That’s definitely true for me, and my wife is a sensual, sexy goddess who knows how to play with us both until we are super turned on - and she can give herself lots of scrummy orgasms :heart_eyes:

One that that we are loving is after a bath, I give her a massage then she dresses up in a few different sexy costumes.

Then she will put a vibrating egg, or some kind of g spot toy insider herself, then give me a super slow, teasing blow job - edging me.

We both get super turned on, and the g spot toy really warms her up inside and she has lots of orgasms afterwards.

Something that feels amazing to me - and is super sexy to watch - is her rubbing my cock on her clit. She can use me as a kind of a toy and it’s the most incredible sensation and way to have an O for me.

Have fun on your adventures!!!

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Lots of ideas on here already.
We really enjoy massage.
We’ve tried roleplay but to be honest it didn’t really do too much for us, although some scenarios are very easy and work well (photographer and model is good).
Watch a film together naked
5 minute sex can be good - see how many times you can do it in a day, but strictly for 5 minutes at a time so he doesn’t quite have long enough to come.
Put a note in her lunchbox.

Sometimes you don’t have to do anything crazy, just switch things up a bit. Take a shower/bath together, or wear a blindfold. One piece of advice that I did come across was to make a list of things you want to try and then sit down and talk about it. Categorise things into three: green = things you both want to try, amber = things one of you is unsure of but might be open to trying, red = hard no

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Lots of great suggestions and ideas already!

Totally agree with having an open conversation about what each of you would be interested in trying. From there probably start with things you are both wanting to try, then can branch out into something one of you wants to try that the other is a bit more unsure of but willing to try.

Expanding on what @krzwis mentioned there are websites, apps, etc. where you both can select what you are interested in, and it only gives you the mutual results that you are both into! In case you or your partner are worried about saying things you’re interested in that the other is not or may be shocked by. Not sure if I am allowed to link or mention specific ones, but if you search up online terms like ‘kink quiz’, ‘kink test’, ‘couples sexual interest matches’ you should be able to find several options.

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Hubby and I kind of dived in at the deep end as I’ve always been kinky, but roleplay has been a recent thing for us. Taboo and “cheating” on our partners - he’s definitely not the good boy I thought he was, and I’m definitely not the good girl he thought I am! :joy:

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