Hey everyone! We’ve just brought a prostate toy for myself and wanted to know the best way of using it and any tips for couples play etc... Read some stuff on the internet that it helps with bigger (and messier) orgasms! Any tips or advice would be appreciated! 👍
In my experience everything really is down to the individual so what may be good for me might not necessarily be so for you. Firstly your orgasms may just vary from milking, which whilst it’s not a massive ejaculation is equally as pleasurable to see and feel your cum ooze out. Then you get a normal ejaculation to a supper ejaculation. Have tried lots of different toys, from specific designed curved prostate toys, vibrating ones to vibrators, dildos and fingers and fisting. Personally for me I love it most when my wife either stimulates my prostate with her fingers to full fisting or using a large dildo, as in my avatar. In some ways fingers are perhaps the best as she really can stroke the prostate for maximum effect but being fisted or done by a large toy is quite awesome. I’ve actually found some of the specific designed toys rather disappointing although some of the glass ones were the best. Use a douche before hand after you have been to the bathroom of course as that will help you to relax psychologically as well and then just get lubed up and have a damn good time. Self exploration is good as you can figure out what you might enjoy more. Go for it and enjoy.
Try turning yourself on prior to use. It’s the difference between ‘this feels weird’ to ‘OMG’.
Use a lot of lube. Like a lot. Prostate toys often swim (for lack of a better term!) against your p spot, which doesn’t work (and therefore they don’t function that well) without lube.
For solo play, hands free orgasms take practice. Don’t be put off if it takes a few attempts. In terms of positioning I found laying on my side with my knees raised to my chest to be the best for stimulation and access to myself.
For play with a partner, expect to finish quicker in bed as it’s really, really stimulating. In terms of positions you might need to avoid sitting or being totally flat on the bed as it hinders stimulation.
Other than that ensure you are clean and enjoy!
Agreed that it's best to experiment and find out what works best for you. I find I'm more relaxed if I'm laying on my back with my knees raised.
Her fingers,,,, if need be have her wear gloves agree with KC I too enjoy a fist or massive toy, up my bum.